Quote From: chikara1Hi again Mel.
I also had people telling me that this was "God's way" and I definitely did not find that comforting at all. I don't think that God goes around taking back little babies!
But people can say weird things and I often thought of compiling all the crazy things that people said in their attempts to make me feel better. One lady told me "oh well, some flowers are never meant to bloom" like we were talking about a geranium! That one floored me so much that I said nothing at all. I walked away laughing because it was completely absurd. I think we just have to let it go when people say "less than helpful" things. I think they really don't know what to say, want to help, and we just have to forgive them. Lord knows, I sure don't want them to feel my pain so they'll know how it feels when people say dumb stuff. Just let it go, like water off your back
HI,
I am having an off day today so I thought I would check in here. I have days where I think about it constantly and then other days wouldn't be so bad. I thought this morning about the fact that I would be 14 weeks now and that in another 4 weeks we were going to have an ultrasound to find out what we were having. When we had my son they had just changed the law in NS about telling the sex so this was really exciting. We had tried recommended "methods" for trying for a girl and were anxious to see if it worked. My husband's family tend to produce boys. Now I realize that it didn't matter what I had I just wanted a healthy baby. I will hopefully have that chance again. I was told that the chances of what happened were not likely to happen again especially because I had a healthy pregnancy before. I hope that they are right! Thanks again for all your support.
Mel
