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December 4, 2005, 6:22 pm PST

I agree with nurse!

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Dr Phil, It must be easy to select the prettiest woman that write in and fix them up with dates. How about us "older" women? The ones that have been married before, or are overweight, or have a health problem? Do we just give up on love because we are not pretty enough or young enough? I am a 55 year old twice divorced woman who would love help to meet suitable men but your shows are always about fixing up 20 somethings and they are all attractive. I don't scare babies and with the right makeup and hair style I can be presentable but I will never be that woman in her 20's that can meet a man and have him tripping all over himself to give me his number. So should I just give up on having someone in my life because I am less desirable?
 I saw the previews of this show. Oh come on now. If someone is playing with their food no wonder they don't get a date!
Why are you fixing up these young good looking perfect specimans? What about the rest of us???
But what about us who are over 40? I've done the volunteering route, the gym, the dating services...we meet go for coffee.....and that's it. Or they just want sex, or it's got to where they just look at me and I know....he's not interested. I may be a little overweight but I dress well, have impeciable manners, interesting fun conversation about any subject.....and they either want to jump me or dump me!
The one's I have met online who are interested are hundreds of miles away.....so that's no help.
When do we get a turn at the game? Get to grab the brass ring or in this case gold ring??
Quit helping young and stupid and help us older, interesting ladies!
 
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December 5, 2005, 6:47 am PST

12/06 Love Smart, Part 1

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Dr Phil, It must be easy to select the prettiest woman that write in and fix them up with dates. How about us "older" women? The ones that have been married before, or are overweight, or have a health problem? Do we just give up on love because we are not pretty enough or young enough? I am a 55 year old twice divorced woman who would love help to meet suitable men but your shows are always about fixing up 20 somethings and they are all attractive. I don't scare babies and with the right makeup and hair style I can be presentable but I will never be that woman in her 20's that can meet a man and have him tripping all over himself to give me his number. So should I just give up on having someone in my life because I am less desirable?
Hey that is not fair because I am on this show & Not all these women all the prettiest they have had it ruff too, we are not in our 20's most of us are in our middle 30's or older. Maybe watch the show before you judge!
 
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December 6, 2005, 12:22 pm PST

Amen ,sister!

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Dr Phil, It must be easy to select the prettiest woman that write in and fix them up with dates. How about us "older" women? The ones that have been married before, or are overweight, or have a health problem? Do we just give up on love because we are not pretty enough or young enough? I am a 55 year old twice divorced woman who would love help to meet suitable men but your shows are always about fixing up 20 somethings and they are all attractive. I don't scare babies and with the right makeup and hair style I can be presentable but I will never be that woman in her 20's that can meet a man and have him tripping all over himself to give me his number. So should I just give up on having someone in my life because I am less desirable?
     Here, here! It seems that once you hit 30 (or more accurately, IT hits YOU!), you're supposed to grateful for whatever comes your way. Just bite your lip, smile and scrape the bottom of the barrel.  You know something? You may have just presented an idea for a show featuring single women over 40 and looking for love. That might get ME on the show.
 
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December 6, 2005, 2:02 pm PST

I agree with nursefaye as well

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Dr Phil, It must be easy to select the prettiest woman that write in and fix them up with dates. How about us "older" women? The ones that have been married before, or are overweight, or have a health problem? Do we just give up on love because we are not pretty enough or young enough? I am a 55 year old twice divorced woman who would love help to meet suitable men but your shows are always about fixing up 20 somethings and they are all attractive. I don't scare babies and with the right makeup and hair style I can be presentable but I will never be that woman in her 20's that can meet a man and have him tripping all over himself to give me his number. So should I just give up on having someone in my life because I am less desirable?
I am 61. Although friends tell me i look 40ish, and don't act like i'm 61. but i am. b/c of my divorce (that i did not want) i have low self-esteem and self-confidence when it comes to men. i was divorced at 57. and now 4 years later i would really like to have a mate/companion, someone to spend time with, but just am not comfortable being around men. i have only been w/ one man my entire life. i was married at 19 (divorced after 37.5 yrs. of marriage). a friend called me a virgin. i guess to some extent i am. i agree w/ nursefaye in regard to what about our age group? it's a whole different ballgame than when i was in 20s,30s. flirting is different. based on my limited exp. it seems that older men  are looking for younger women. so where does the "older" woman fit into the dating game? and don't tell me to look at younger men. i've heard that from friends. my son is 40. when i see a man at 40 it's like looking at my son.
 
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December 6, 2005, 3:36 pm PST

Reply to 55 yr old

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Dr Phil, It must be easy to select the prettiest woman that write in and fix them up with dates. How about us "older" women? The ones that have been married before, or are overweight, or have a health problem? Do we just give up on love because we are not pretty enough or young enough? I am a 55 year old twice divorced woman who would love help to meet suitable men but your shows are always about fixing up 20 somethings and they are all attractive. I don't scare babies and with the right makeup and hair style I can be presentable but I will never be that woman in her 20's that can meet a man and have him tripping all over himself to give me his number. So should I just give up on having someone in my life because I am less desirable?

I would like to comment about the show.  I did not get to see it because of having to work, but  

in signing in on Dr. Phil's web site I read up on the shows.  I am a 53 yr old women that has been married once and have since been divorced. In my previous relationship,  it was a very bad and demeaning one.  I am overweight and am in  decent health, but I am not looking.  Because of my previous relationship,  I am now happy being single.  I have my job and my family around me to support me.  If the right person does come along,  that person will do the asking.  I'm not going to do the looking.  I was brought up from the old school that the other person ask's first. I would just sit back and relax and that person, if he's good enough, will come to you.   

 
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December 7, 2005, 12:41 am PST

12/06 Love Smart, Part 1

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Dr Phil, It must be easy to select the prettiest woman that write in and fix them up with dates. How about us "older" women? The ones that have been married before, or are overweight, or have a health problem? Do we just give up on love because we are not pretty enough or young enough? I am a 55 year old twice divorced woman who would love help to meet suitable men but your shows are always about fixing up 20 somethings and they are all attractive. I don't scare babies and with the right makeup and hair style I can be presentable but I will never be that woman in her 20's that can meet a man and have him tripping all over himself to give me his number. So should I just give up on having someone in my life because I am less desirable?
  1. Dr. Phil,  I, too, am an older woman of 66 years.  I've never been married after having been left at the alter at the tender age of 21.  All TV programs like yours seem to center around the younger people.  I know that's the age the advertisers like.  I just retired this year after making my job my life.for the past 46 years.  It would be nice to meet someone who wasn't looking for a Miss America.  I'm overweight, have arthritis, but still would enjoy a dinner out with a male companion. 
 
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March 31, 2006, 5:35 pm PST

03/31 Love Smart, Part 1

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Dr Phil, It must be easy to select the prettiest woman that write in and fix them up with dates. How about us "older" women? The ones that have been married before, or are overweight, or have a health problem? Do we just give up on love because we are not pretty enough or young enough? I am a 55 year old twice divorced woman who would love help to meet suitable men but your shows are always about fixing up 20 somethings and they are all attractive. I don't scare babies and with the right makeup and hair style I can be presentable but I will never be that woman in her 20's that can meet a man and have him tripping all over himself to give me his number. So should I just give up on having someone in my life because I am less desirable?
 As an almost 63 year old I'm glad to see some other posts from 'older' women who think we are underrepresented on shows like this one.  I definitely would like to see a program about Love Smart that addresses our 'unique' problems. I'm not even interested in getting married again--just looking for someone who would enjoy sharing his life with me, going places, etc. I've lived on my own for 30 years so I don't need someone to take care of me (hmm, is this part of the problem?) I have girlfriends to do things with but most of them have husbands so they aren't always available. Come on Dr. Phil, do a show on "geezer dating"!!
 


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