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December 5, 2005, 6:13 pm PST

I Want to Adopt

Quote From: smoke73

I agree, they say baby selling is illegal, but isn't that what some of these adoption agencies are doing???  Selling babies.......I just don't get it, my hubby and I can't afford all the costs it takes to adopt, but we can afford to care for a child, how is some one w/ limited means suppose to come up w/ 10 to 40 thousand dollars............aggravates me to no end!!!

i guess it depends on how bad you want it and letting go of some of your dreams. like for me, i havent adopted yet but i know it'll cost me so i've let go of a lot of my dreams because i want it bad enough. i totally agree with you but there's really nothing much we can do...although i think domestic adoptions are generally cheaper than international but adoptable newborns have unforunately become a commodity and is set to the laws of the market...very sad 

  

i wish you and your hubby luck. 

 

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December 11, 2005, 5:10 pm PST

I'm A BIRTHMOTHER

Quote From: smoke73

I agree, they say baby selling is illegal, but isn't that what some of these adoption agencies are doing???  Selling babies.......I just don't get it, my hubby and I can't afford all the costs it takes to adopt, but we can afford to care for a child, how is some one w/ limited means suppose to come up w/ 10 to 40 thousand dollars............aggravates me to no end!!!
From a BIRTHMOTHER"S standpoint....   I chose to place my daughter for adoption four yrs ago, and I chose the parents, and I don't regret it at all. But, now that I'm married to a man who cannot have children due to a vasectomy thirteen years ago, we have no choice but to adopt if we want to ever have a child of our own. But I asked the adoptive parents what it cost them to adopt my daughter,(we had a totally open adoption) and it was a jaw-dropping $ 20,000.00!!!!!! Keep in mind that I only received a mere $1000 for my wage loss while on maternity leave from the adoption agency...the rest went straight into the agency's pockets!! Now that we can't have children I see the frustration of the money obstacle for parents wanting to adopt! It's crazy and it infuriates me!!!
 


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