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December 5, 2005, 11:12 am PST
 Quote From: amanda4128 I have been married for almost four years, recently found out that everything has been a lie. He has me trapped here, I have two babies, no job and no where to go, as far as will they change, in my situation I don't think so. He has promised change time and time again and he will be different for about two weeks then he is the same abusive, lieing person. He has broken every promise he has ever made unless I make him mad enough to carry it out and I only do that when it is something I cannot complete myself. The only vow he hasn't broken is "until death do us part". I don't think I will ever be able to trust my husband again. In truth I want out.
To the next topic: My mother left my dad after 25 years of marriage because she wanted someone younger than her. My Dad is still heartbroken, he is also a diabetic since the divorce he has had his medicine changed from pill control to the actual insulin shot. I have to remind him eveytime we talk that he did nothing wrong and that he doesn't need my mother, he has me, my sister, and my children to live for. It breaks my heart. My grandparents are almost 80 and they are devestated by it. In a since they lost their son. My mother ingnores the fact that she has a family. My sister, my children and I don't even exist to her. Her own mother was in the hospital possibly dieing about two weeks ago (she didn't die) but instead of being with her mother she was lieing around in bed with my new stepdad. So yes I do know how a parental divorce can change and hurt a family. You DO have options. A woman with kids and no support is immediately eligible for everything from food stamps to section 8 housing, childcare and free tuition and job training assistance. Pick up your phone book. Most phone books have a section near the front called "community pages", "helping hands" or some such -- usually after the emergency info but before the actual listings. You should see one or more listing for something like woman's services, counseling, family welfare, etc. Pick one and call. Usually you can get information (on what they do, options, etc.) without giving your name. If you don;t like what you hear at the first location, go to the next. If you are not in an immediately threatening situation, you might want to stay away from the county/state agencies at first (that is, you don't want an official file started when you are still just reviewing your options). (if you are in danger, call the domestic violence nu mber NOW).
You sound fairly young, but even if you are not, there ARE options. |
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