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December 5, 2005, 6:04 pm PST
I Want to Adopt
Quote From: dbennett29People like you make me mad!!! My husband and I could not have any children of our own so we had a CHOICE of either not having any children or adopting. (Yes, we could have done the IVF route but that is a different story.) And yes, adoption is a choice that every couple makes -- just like people who can conceive having a choice of conceiving and having children or not conceiving and not having children. My daughter is still my daughter no matter what happens. And, to top it off, she is the lucky one -- she has two sets of parents, the set who gave her life and the set that is living her life with her. It sure beats the rest of us who only have one set of parents!! I totally get what you are saying, but I'd have to agree with the other poster. As an adoptee, it really bothers me when people adopt as a last resort to have a child. Adoption is NOT supposed to be a way to have a child, it's supposed to be a way to provide a child with a home. Sadly, this is not the case many times.
My mom decided before she got married that she was going to adopt. She planned to adopt 2 children, and have 2 biological children. When she found out she couldn't have biological children, she decided to adopt all 4. Her reason for adopting was that she wanted to give 4 children a chance to have a better life than being in foster care. All of us were in foster care before being adopted, and we were 3 months, 18 months, 5 1/2 and almost 6 when we were adopted. My 3 siblings all have special needs, and I was considered "hard to place" because I am multiracial.
Of course, anyone who adopts wants to have kids. Otherwise they wouldn't be adopting! But, I think the main focus needs to be finding a home for a child, not finding a child for a childless couple.
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