Quote From: jrmint90I should be able to be Elated right now, I took a pregnancy test two days ago, a it is positive, we were trying, our first son just had his first birthday Thanksgiving weekend, we have stuck to our plan. But as soon as I told my husband we have both been at each others throats, we don't live the dream life that we both want right now but we have the where-with-all to achieve it someday, in the mean time we are getting help from my family. At the moment we live with my Parents and sometimes other extended family. My husband is eating himself up inside because we had to sell our first home before it went into foreclosure - I figure he is not feeling like the man that can provide for his family. But how do I get him to put that aside and live in the now and the joy that we have another child on the way - I want him to be how he was with the first pregnancy, I can't go through this stressed out and worried about his pride. I am afraid now that he may resent this pregnancy - obviously when the baby is born he will shower him/her with love, but about now.... does he know that he is also taking away my joy?
If you have no place of your own to live are struggling as much as you are, why would you plan to have another baby in the middle of all this mess? And then wonder why your hubby isn't jumping for joy! Why not wait until you have that life you dreamed of, like you said, before you tried for another baby? USE YOUR HEAD!! That would have been the intelligent thing to do. Doesn't your unborn child deserve better? Maybe you'll THINK next time!(or not) I see no reason why you should be "elated right now".
