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Hello Everyone hoped this is going to be my adviced answer this is 2005 almost 2006. its 230 am. I am in under strain cannot sleep my body so restless as xmas is near seems to be getting same over over again every year. This time gotton to put my foot down. 

Does your older child ever treat you to leave hubby or wife for apparently reason more pressure controlling talk about the past 20 yrs when even you just want to patch things up with your hubby or wife? 

Well guess I am one of them. I am in stirring craving  thanks to my older daughter  she s pressure me to leave her dad as I dont deserve to be with him as abusive for 20 yrs which is not that much long. Some things are bit better than before some same old situtions maybe I m not strong enough to put my foot down how to say NO  whether like it or not. Even my girl were saying if i dont do a thing she wont speak to me again.. Well its aint easy. She hears other of member family side of stories which shouldnt have brought it up because its not worth to argued over big deal thing being born for no reason. She hates her dad. But her dad hasnt abuse her this is what I ve seen he does with me so far been stop for couple of years. No one s perfect. Sometimes I wannna leave sometimes I want to hurry up for him to walk out  he cannot do it because of phobia he has and money  he cannot afford to lived on. I m breadwinner yah money wiser. The more I spend the more he act like child if i say no! sometimes I get  fears of him threats me. This isnt going to be pleasant way for him to threat like this. My girl wants me to go women shelter  guess what they arent supportive even wanna help to reach my other family stand by together but they didnt do it at all. Thi is embrassment. One more thing she abusive me as well. Hurt me alot ways. Her and her dad are in same boat... do things at me. 

 Anyways I know dr.phil will help and I know he will give me any good adviced. I wished to be on tv talk about it. But have to wait till anyone  e mail and say this family need help. I want to see me to do things on my own rather not have anyone pressure me talk repeating. I hate to talk about it at nights its not good. Dam its close to 3 am. How am I supposed to go sleep?? My sleep is the best is in the morning peacefully.I do not need to discuss my children about me and hubby s problem why should we?? she s not our therphy. She make us so embrassed with others how we are treat?  

Now xmas is coming can you imaged that I have been spending xmas gifts all the family 4 of us  to split half spend to give us a gift well thats my money .. All three my son and my daughter and my husband should know how to handle money situtions when it comes to get a gift. I know someone told me buy something and get yourself treat that I deserve yes of course I agreed but I loved what people send me something surprised. Mother s Day nope nothing. My point view that my husband bad make sample about mother s day he went ahaead buy me a gift without our child  were young  and need to teach how to buy what  the day is and mean. I do all that for father s day. DO i deserve sometihng all those years  YES thats my goal. I want them to look and figure out. I gave them few advice still not do it. I dont know if I should do it this year give money to get gifts  my children are older enough to handle it should know better. 

I hoped all that above I need dr.phils advice or anyone send me on the show i m sure that my man will show up with me he will respect dr. phils advice. I want to be someone s friend out there. I am not up to do a thing around what I liked to do.