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What child does like discipline (or any adult for that matter)? discipline is a part of life and so what if she gets mad and cries and throws a fit, ignore the tantrums and stick to your guns and be consistent. It sounds like she is being a normal five year old who gets upset when she doesn't get her way, Unless there is more to the story, I don't see it as a problem to take her to the doctor and even children with a disorder needs to be disciplined and shouldn't get away with misbehavior. it is just an excuse for the parent not to be consistent and to allow the child to get away with the inappropiate behavior and the child learns the attitude as well and will start using the disorder as an excuse. When my children throw a tantrum, I leave the room til they stop then we talk about it and then they get their time out/privelge taken awy and too bad, the fits and crying can go on as long as they like, for I am not giving in. And with the incident of her hurting her little brother, I would have taken her out of the cart and had a little chat and if the tantrum or the misbehavoir continued, we would have been out of that store in a heart beat, yep, leave the cart behind, and yes, I have done this, only once because when they started bickering and fighting over the stuff in the cart,I told them once to settle down but they continued and that was the end of that, we left the cart, and we headed towards home and I had two screaming girls in the car, I didn't say a word, got home and they went to bed. We discusssed the incident and that was that, has never happened again. Now, my two year old doesn't understand everything but right along with her older sister, she is learning what is accepted and not accepted in our home. yes, on accasions, we have issues but I am the parent and I have no problem taking care of it. communication and consistency in discipline is the key and in my opinion, no excuse is a good excuse when we allow the child to continue the inappropiate misbehavior.

I would suggest you do look into it. She may be suffering from sibling jealousy. 

They have great therapists that can work through this. My daughter is bipolar and does the same things you describe. 

Do you have any mental illness history in your backgrounds? Suicide? alcoholism? depression? these are things they look for when diagnosing. 

  

If not then I would say she is probably learning some of the behaviors from the older girl. And also may have some anger about the new baby. You need to protect both children. 

If you do look into find a psychologist who specializes in childhood mental illness. 

  

A great website to ask questions if you think your child has bipolar is  

  

www.bpkids.org 

  

If you have any questions and would like to talk to me my name is Tammy 

  

email is mommaoof2@yahoo.com