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December 7, 2005, 3:03 pm PST

attitude adjustment?

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Must be a sign from God -- my first message didn't post. Oh well. According to Dr. Phil's guidelines, there is no man who would want me that I would want, since men intimidated by strong women, and I can't respect a man as a romantic partner, who has less ability than I have, and has done less than I have, especially since I feel like I've only done 1/10th of my potential ....  Thank you Dr. Phil, for helping me realize that I will be single the rest of my life (I guess I better find a good deal on batteries for my BOB! (smile) .....
The one thing I learned was when they said men are intimidated by strong women and that men need to be needed on an emotional level of connectedness. , not just to take women on a vacation,etc. I did not hear that put quite that way before. I really want to go on a vacation really bad right now!. But I do depend on my husband for the daily emotional connectedness even if we just act silly and watch Jay Leno at night. or CSI. I think having some equalness in education helps. But one of the nuttiest, most fun people I ever met (and who was married to a great guy) is someone who has a PHD  and worked with moonrocks sent back from outerspace. Another person I know belonged to Mensa but has a more negative attitude and is not in a relationship. My elderly relative going on 90 is in a nursing home but  has a great attitude and has a special ladyfriend who lives there also. Go figure that one.:>)
 
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December 7, 2005, 4:48 pm PST

Some one for everyone.

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Must be a sign from God -- my first message didn't post. Oh well. According to Dr. Phil's guidelines, there is no man who would want me that I would want, since men intimidated by strong women, and I can't respect a man as a romantic partner, who has less ability than I have, and has done less than I have, especially since I feel like I've only done 1/10th of my potential ....  Thank you Dr. Phil, for helping me realize that I will be single the rest of my life (I guess I better find a good deal on batteries for my BOB! (smile) .....

I am sorry that is what you took from the episode.  It is important to remember that such statements are a statistical majority and that there are always exceptions to the rule.  I speak from experience.  My husband chose a carrier in the Navy and therefore was attracted to me in large part because I am a strong and independent person.  The peace of mind that it offered him knowing that I was capable of managing everything at home made his time away much easier.  I’m not suggesting that you should run out find a sailor but there are many men that are in a situation where a strong partner is a desirable factor.    

 


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