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And in your world, that might be what would make you happy in a relationship. But in my world, when there is more then one person involved it is now a matter of the two being able to come to a happy medium where both can walk away and feel real good about themselves, and their lovers. 

Do you really believe that ONE person could do EVERYTHING you would want? Wow. You have real high expectations. I wish you luck.  

Now keep in mind this is coming from someone who is a so called "pro-porner", but give me a break. Seriously this is the worse excuse I have ever heard for the reason a man uses porn. Seriously, Who the hell gave you the idea that any women, let alone a self respectiong ine, should cater to you or do whatever you want her to do in bed or otherwise? Relationships are give and take. I feel really sorry for whatever woman you are with. Because I promise you that you don't fulfill all her needs in every way. You have alot of growing up to do. 

Lovinglady 

a good way to justify porn usage. 

let me tell you one thing.  this wife ran circles around the bedroom to try to change his porn usage. It had nothing to do with what I did or didn't do. It had nothing to do with what I wore, what I looked like, or what I did during sex. 

He used porn because he wanted to use porn. 

Thank God he never blamed me for it like you just did! UNBELIEVABLE!!! 

LISTEN UP WOMEN....DON"T BUY INTO THIS CRAP!!!!! 

"CHEATING IS WRONG....AND INDULGING IN PORN IS A FORM OF ADULTERY." 

And men would never HAVE TO resort IF....just do their wifely DUTIES.....(I am laughing now....this is good stuff Jim)..... 

Jim, Jim, Jim,......didn't anyone ever really talk to you about women and sex?  See this is the kind of thing that really messes up people's sex lives...too much of this depending on someone else to "DO" whatever it takes to make you happy...including in sex.  When the fact is some people just don't know what the other wants.  And porn sure isn't showing anyone anything about the realities of sex...not with real people.  And the other problem with this statement is that if YOU treat and think of sex as a "DUTY" FOR A WOMEN...then it's very likely that you TREAT her like she's an employee of sex, rather than an equally deserving parnter to recieve the pleasure part of your ( and hers')  sexual experience.  This is one huge reason why some women do shut down and won't get into real experimentation with their partners...hence...the reason YOU would say men get into porn.  

See it's a vicious cycle...one not knowing how to approach sex....the other getting the feeling that it's some kind of "job" to have sex.  In other words..."just do what we want"..."the way we want it"....sorry Jim but this makes for a very lonely sex life after so long.  Because sex is a two way street.....unlike you see inside the porn star's eyes...real women want just as much as YOU want her to be the pleasuring factor for you, for herself.   

A woman who is really honestly pleasured by a man during sex....will be more than ready and willing to do the pleasuring TO you , FOR you as well.  If she's not this way....then HER experience with sex is very likely not exactly what you think might be curling her toe nails either.  To put it bluntly....a woman who is really "into" sex and is pleased having sex then the sexual experience is something she looks forward to expanding on. 

I know men don't like to hear this.....but men have a great deal of power and ability to "bring" this out in a woman.....they are being mislead as to how this works. 

See with some women, they don't miss something or desire to make it better, or have the need to put anything into "it"...if it's something they truly could live without because it is nothing spectacular about "it" to them to begin with......exactly the same thing you might say about your own "real" sexual experience....and therefore having to turn to porn to supplement it.  That's the vicious cycle and it only gets worse...unless the same expectation you place on yourself surpass what you put on your partner....THEN and only then will this change for you. 

Luv~