Quote From: sdbmania So, I suppose no one has any thoughts on my first post?
I would like to see more help for men who aren't good at dating I agree, but I think one of the reasons that we really haven't seen any examples of men asking for help is generally we are too ashamed to ask.
Hello I read your message and I would like to say that you sound like a person who will be able to find love! I understand your worries about debt and living at home, but this does not mean no one will be interested. There are bound to be nice ladies out there in the same situation or will understand how you got there. And not that you have to explain the reasons you are still at home, if a lady is understanding she may see that you are not planning to stay for good at home. Start some kind of plan on when to get out on your own and what steps you can take to do so, eg Savings, pricing the market for rentals ect.
As for being not social enough, I would suggest first off making a list of what you want in a date ro girlfriend, what you could not stand, and this will attract to you what you want. It's like ordering from the universe what you would like. I don't know if this is something you believe in but it's something called the power of intention, kinda like karma! Anyway, then make a list of things you like to do in public, a variety of activities like bowling, watching a game, shopping, walking, music, animals (volunteer at a shelter or something) and do these things at least once a week with the intention of at least speaking to people you don't know, maybe not for a date, but just to get prepared, you will never know where this will lead until you try. Then consider doing the same (taking to strangers casually, not too deep of topics like religion, politics or really personal stuff) in places that you may not enjoy so much like the dry cleaners or waiting for a bus ect. Keep your own focus on being happy with who you are and what you have learned in you life, also your dreams other than having a girl. Women like men who are confident, but not cocky, who have goals and dreams of their own, but may be willing to share with someone special. Try this advice and see what comes to you! Good Luck and Best Wishes!
