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sad
December 9, 2005, 12:54 pm PST

you are not a number..

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wow! I really feel sorry for the woman and her daughter.  I think it is a shame that that the mother is so obsessed with weight and looks that she has to point out and criticize her daughter if she gains even a couple of pounds. Wow, get a life and quit obsessing about your daughter's weight. You are turning her into a neurotic, self-centered, weight obsessed person. Thank god my mother was never like that, she always told me how beautiful I was (even during my awkward years) and taught me that inner beauty was way more important than how you look on the outside because beauty fades no matter how much plastic surgery you have. Besides, eventually you end up looking unnatural and creepy. I suggest you focus on  developing your inner self so that when your looks eventually fade (and they will) you have inner beauty. I have to say I think Dr. Phil was way too easy on this woman and the damage she is doing to herself and her daughter. There is nothing wrong with dieting and exercising to look your best and taking pride in your appearance but there are limits.

I agree that Dr. Phil was way too easy on this step-mother. She is no way a size 2 and it is wrong to push her warped sense of reality onto her daughter. All children need to feel unconditional love and at such an influencial age to push the "diet" concept into her everyday life is sickening. That young beautiful girl is going to develop an eating disorder and that is said from experience. That mom needs to go to therapy and deal with her own low self esteem issues before it ruins the daughters life. It doesn't matter  that the daughter says she feels fat, she has learned that from you. Being healthy does not have anything to do with numbers on a scale or a dress size. The mom needs to stop obsessing on her looks before the daughter has a lifetime of hurt. 

 
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chillin'
December 9, 2005, 1:31 pm PST

unbelievable

Quote From: beyond_it

wow! I really feel sorry for the woman and her daughter.  I think it is a shame that that the mother is so obsessed with weight and looks that she has to point out and criticize her daughter if she gains even a couple of pounds. Wow, get a life and quit obsessing about your daughter's weight. You are turning her into a neurotic, self-centered, weight obsessed person. Thank god my mother was never like that, she always told me how beautiful I was (even during my awkward years) and taught me that inner beauty was way more important than how you look on the outside because beauty fades no matter how much plastic surgery you have. Besides, eventually you end up looking unnatural and creepy. I suggest you focus on  developing your inner self so that when your looks eventually fade (and they will) you have inner beauty. I have to say I think Dr. Phil was way too easy on this woman and the damage she is doing to herself and her daughter. There is nothing wrong with dieting and exercising to look your best and taking pride in your appearance but there are limits.

I believe we call it vanity!!  Obviously someone once impressed upon Janie just how important it was to get somewhere on her looks.  You know what?? Shame on her for not being the adult in the 'competition' between her and her daughter.  The girl is 15!!!  Exercise is healthy..eating right is healthy too(which they BOTH seem to be forgetting!).  But this competition thing really sucks the big one!  

  

 

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December 9, 2005, 2:02 pm PST

Snow White

Quote From: beyond_it

wow! I really feel sorry for the woman and her daughter.  I think it is a shame that that the mother is so obsessed with weight and looks that she has to point out and criticize her daughter if she gains even a couple of pounds. Wow, get a life and quit obsessing about your daughter's weight. You are turning her into a neurotic, self-centered, weight obsessed person. Thank god my mother was never like that, she always told me how beautiful I was (even during my awkward years) and taught me that inner beauty was way more important than how you look on the outside because beauty fades no matter how much plastic surgery you have. Besides, eventually you end up looking unnatural and creepy. I suggest you focus on  developing your inner self so that when your looks eventually fade (and they will) you have inner beauty. I have to say I think Dr. Phil was way too easy on this woman and the damage she is doing to herself and her daughter. There is nothing wrong with dieting and exercising to look your best and taking pride in your appearance but there are limits.
I agree the damage to this girl as been done.  Mama needs to get a life.  The girl needs a passion to follow besides self.  Lets see does anyone think this story resembles "Mirror, Mirror on the wall, who is fairest of us all"?  Didn't that story involve a competitive step-mother?  Unfortunately if a handsome prince should appear everyone will be too busy with the mirror to notice.  Maybe the moral of that story is to get away from the competition, roll up one's sleeves and get a passion and work on a talent.  (For instance cleaning the cottage with forest animals and little men while singing beautifully.)  Then if a prince rides by great if not, hey, the cottage is clean and some new friends were made!
 


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