|
December 15, 2005, 9:49 am PST
maybe this will help
Quote From: queenem75I have worked with all kinds of kids in daycare and there are so many reasons why they bite. I thought it was crazy when our school used to send ONE YEAR OLDS homes because they were biting! My son was not a biter until he was bit and he was 3 when it all started!!! My son would bite to get the kids away from him. He did not like to tell them to go away so he would just bite them to get them to hit the road. I did the same thing to him, I would talk and he would ignore. I did buy the book Teeth Are Not for Biting by Elizabeth Verdick and that seemed to help. When I thought things were better, he started again. My mom told me that she had to go to extemes with me because I was a biter. She bought black licorice (because I HATED the taste of it) and would have me bite it everytime I bit someone. I tried it with my son and his teacher tried it too. He stopped in less than a week. I know it sounds extreme, but come on... it is licorice!! I am now having this problem with my daughter and I came upon a WONDERFUL website... http://pediatrics.about.com/od/biting/. I hope this helps!! I have a three year old as well , who will be four in march as well. He isn't in daycare yet, but we have playdates with other parents and he goes to a classroom invironment every week, and has two younger siblings. I am not sure if the siblings are part of the solution, but when he was in his "bitting era", it was his sister, and a couple of his cousins that were older than him. The first thing we did is get him to notice how the kids he had done it to felt, and reacted to what he had done. Then we asked him if he liked that person and wanted that person to be his friend and like him. When he took notice to how he had made that person feel, then we asked him if he would like to feel that way. When he took notice to how he felt hurting a "friend" or someone who was good to him, we explained how you treat people the way you want to be treated, and we haven't had a problem with it since. Now we are going through how name calling is the same as bitting because it hurts people. We are trying to teach him the difference of nick names, and bad name calling(teasing). Wait till you get there!!! Just use the same technique.
|
