Quote From: misty_eyesWhy do most men rather have there needs met before worring about pleasing the person they are with? Well that is the question men so fill us women in. Now I know this is a tackle question for most to anser with an honest answer. But I always experienced men who just worried abuot pleasing themselves. But the person who I share my life with now rather it be the other way around. On making sure I am taking care of more then he is. And I did find he is not afraid to try new things that come to mind. Some men think some things are alittle to extreme to try. And if that is the case then you should start talking to your partner, and get the other side of the story of feelings and thoughts about interests that you like also. It is not always about you. It is about both getting the full effect of the whole experience of pleasures.
So, " Who is going to brave this question with honesty? "!!!!
Speaking only from personal experience the question begs to be asked...what is the attitude of the lady?....is she demanding?...pushy?...arrogant in her request?...while I am in know way insinuating that is your attitude, I have found that when a woman acts this way in my presence I dont stay in hers very long. Its a turn off. You get what you give.
after talking with my lady , her experience has been that younger men tend to be more selfish and seeking their own pleasure. Most are so full of themselves they really dont know who they are. Maybe thats the difference between sex and sex, love and passion combined. Personally i gain no satisfaction unless my woman is pleased. My lady knows this not by my words but by my actions and because of my putting her first "what goes around comes around" ya know?
Part of the problem i also believe is that we live in a "fast food" mentality. go in get it quick and get out....i believe this mentality has pervaded every aspect of human life and this is not just a problem that women have experienced from men.
Sex to a guy seems in my opinion to revolve more around their penis and there tends to be a preoccupation with it.....along with the pressure to perform (real or unreal). Especially with younger guys. what i have learned...and what my lady has reiterated is that to a woman its not about the penis but about the experience. Martians meet Venutians.
I hope this helps in someway
