Quote From: fighter9Please do some searches on PSYCHOPATH and DESTRUCTIVE NARCISSISTIC PATTERN.
These people:
- scam others
- PASS LIE DETECTOR TESTS
- seem completely normal
- prey on the best & brightest (and those with some MONEY)
No, sorry - online dating isn't for me. I have looked very deep within myself. Sorry but thats sort of fast-food psychology doesn't cut it when you deal with these guys. Also, this is NOT the fault of the victim. 12 years of therapy for PTSD from these con men has taught me that!!! There is NOT A THING WRONG with us. It's them. Dr. Robert Hare has a great book out called THE PSYCHOPATH NEXT DOOR. Go read it. Only a small percentage of them are killers.
I am out there, in society, interacting with others in healthy positive ways. But online dating? or even dating in general? Not after you have had one of these types in your life. I am interested in one thing: my children. But don't worry about me - hey, more for you!!
Hare's book,
Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopath's Among Us was a lifesaver for me as well as counseling. The counseling will continue, and I will continue to learn as much as I can about these predators so this will never happen again. Hare's book should be on everyone's must read list as well as Martha Stout's,
The Sociopath Next Door, not just the must read list of victims. Everyone needs to learn what to look for. Until we know what to recognize: the signs, the red flags, and the subtleness of the antisocial con artist, we are all targets. Dr. Hare hit the nail on the head when he said:
Psychopaths are social predators who charm, manipulate and ruthlessly plow their way through life, leaving a broad trail of broken hearts, shattered expectations and empty wallets. Completely lacking in conscience and feelings for others, they selfishly take what they want and do as they please, violating social norms and expectations without the slightest sense of guilt or regret."
