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December 13, 2005, 9:11 pm PST

Why adoption cost so much!

Quote From: ladydivva

From a BIRTHMOTHER"S standpoint....   I chose to place my daughter for adoption four yrs ago, and I chose the parents, and I don't regret it at all. But, now that I'm married to a man who cannot have children due to a vasectomy thirteen years ago, we have no choice but to adopt if we want to ever have a child of our own. But I asked the adoptive parents what it cost them to adopt my daughter,(we had a totally open adoption) and it was a jaw-dropping $ 20,000.00!!!!!! Keep in mind that I only received a mere $1000 for my wage loss while on maternity leave from the adoption agency...the rest went straight into the agency's pockets!! Now that we can't have children I see the frustration of the money obstacle for parents wanting to adopt! It's crazy and it infuriates me!!!

I thought I would share why adoption cost so much money.  First if an adoptive parent want to find an agency or lawyer they might look in the phone book or search on line, which cost them money.  Second if a birth family is looking to place their baby they would look in the phone book and online, again costing the agency money.  Every time a web banner is clicked it cost the agency money.  When we call to request info packets that costs money.  The consoling that the families get cost money.  They employee's that we will call every time we have a question has a family to feed and deserves to be paid.  If you are looking for a low cost adoption find one that is non-for-profit.  We are in the process and our baby will be born in March.  Our total expense is $15,000 (actually a little less then this).  But every situation is different.  If you adopt out side of your state there is an Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children fee (which varies per state).  Which is included in my $15,000 and my travel is as well).  They best thing is when you file taxes we get $10,000 credit and when you have a baby in that year it also get a credit plus having a dependent get a crdit.  So you can have made more money then you spent on adoption.  Good luck to all in your journey to parenthood 

 


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