Quote From: filindownI have been a single mom "officially" for twelve months now. Recently separated from my husband of 8 years, 9 counting this year. I am raising two special needs boys on my own and the hardest thing I find is I can not even give them the simplest wishes they ask for. My oldest is 11 years old and his only xmas gift he asked for was a psp and I can not even afford the games he would need for that machine. My youngest is 8 years old and his only wish was those Lego's Pirate ships and I can not even afford that. They are just material things but I wish I could at least give them something they asked for, for once. Playing hockey is a big thing around here and theirs no way my sons will probably ever play. This separation has cost them alot, their home, their father (who's changed alot for the worst these past 20 months), our vehicle, and some friends because we had to move. I feel like such a failure when it comes to them, that I would take my cheating, drug "rehab" using, unappreciative ex husband back just to see them somewhat happier than they have been these past 20 months. I know it sounds crazy but I can not think of anything else to do. Single moms do have it hard, because if the fathers hide to not pay child support or make sure to have no jobs, you need to make it on your own. Daycare, drives, meds, everything is on your shoulders, and when meds are necessary meals suffer more. So my prayers are to every single mom out there.
Nancy
What part of Canada are you in? I work for a fellow that runs hockey camps all over the US and Canada, I'm willing to contact him on your behalf to see what we can do to help your sons. I can't promise anything but that I'll try to get some help if your boys want to play.
Stay strong for your boys and yourself, it takes awhile to get better but it does get better. I've been a single mom for 17 years, the first few years were rough but I wouldn't trade what I've gained from the experience. I've learned many things about myself and my own strength of character, fortitude and courage. My son and I have a much closer relationship than we likely would have had if his father and I hadn't split up. Things are just things, what your sons will value is your time, your attention and your love. It is hard work but it is well worth it in the long run.
