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December 29, 2005, 12:30 pm PST

me too!

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Christmas becomes a stressful time of year for everybody, but my stess is much different.  I want and don't want to buy things for my boys.  I know that before long we would have just wasted more money .  My boys are 10 and 8 and as of right now, they don't have any toys (maybe a couple of matchbox cars).  It isn't because they haven't  gotten any, it's that they have either broken them or lost them.  This is the second year that by Christmas we are restocking rather than adding to their stuff ( I guess I should be thankful that i don't have to find room for the new things, ha).  It isn't just with toys its with everything.  We have been thru several pairs of glasses, shoes and socks.  We have tried talking with them and we don't replace things.  When its gone its gone.  They only receive gifts or rewards.  I need suggestions on how to have them take better care of their things.  We have tried giving them one toy at a time, usually comes back broken or with pieces missing.  

i feel the same way, except i might have a bigger problem. the same happens to toys as well, but i have been through 4 sets of living room furniture in 8 years, 4 sets of carpeting to the entire house, cars, and you name it. I have had a new car on mothers day every year for the past 4 years. I am  

not kidding you. I have 4 boys, 1 girl( who is just like them but prettier) my husband who thinks that tkids are kids and a golden retriever that fits right in. I would like to buy something and have it last longer than 5 minutes. this is no fun. HELP FROM ANYONE? 

 

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January 4, 2006, 10:39 am PST

General Advice

Quote From: daizeedee

Christmas becomes a stressful time of year for everybody, but my stess is much different.  I want and don't want to buy things for my boys.  I know that before long we would have just wasted more money .  My boys are 10 and 8 and as of right now, they don't have any toys (maybe a couple of matchbox cars).  It isn't because they haven't  gotten any, it's that they have either broken them or lost them.  This is the second year that by Christmas we are restocking rather than adding to their stuff ( I guess I should be thankful that i don't have to find room for the new things, ha).  It isn't just with toys its with everything.  We have been thru several pairs of glasses, shoes and socks.  We have tried talking with them and we don't replace things.  When its gone its gone.  They only receive gifts or rewards.  I need suggestions on how to have them take better care of their things.  We have tried giving them one toy at a time, usually comes back broken or with pieces missing.  

One thing I did that really changed how my children care for their property was to give them the money and let them choose their toys and clothes. Both of them have an allowance and they choose what to buy with their money. I still buy all of the necessities for my son(7) but my daughter (13) has to budget for most of her own expenses. When I give gifts, they are generally money or practical things they need. 

  

When my kids have taken money out of their bank account to buy something, they look after it. 

 


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