Replies to 'Toxic Family Relationships'

BJ 

I was so saddened by your post.  First of all, you are not to blame for what happened and shame on your daughter for making it seem so.  She is abdicating her responsibility to and for her girls.   

Were they my children, I would have insisted that they either go with you as promised, or stay home.  There would not have been a third option. 

Your daughter is not teaching them to honor their commitments.  Nor is she teaching them to respect the feelings of others.   

I find it ridiculous that these girls, at ages 10 and 12, have cell phones, let alone the freedom to organize their social calendars without parental input.  The long-term implications of this lack of parental involvement are frightening. 

I'm not sure there is anything you can do to smooth this over.  Maintain your relationship with your granddaughters but understand that, unless or until their mother opens her eyes, you may be  playing second fiddle to their friends and other activities.   

Keeping a good thought for you.