Quote From: serenity21Hi I’m new here and this is my first post
The thing I want to ask about is a problem with my fiancé.
We don’t have the same sex drive.
He has admitted that he would be happy only making love once a week.
Unfortunately I don’t feel that way, I would like the almost every day
I don’t think he would mind if we only made love once a month.
I’m only 21 and I was a virgin before I met him.
He is 28 but isn’t that still to young for a mans libido to slow down?
When I ask for sex and he says he’s to tired, I don’t push it, but I can’t help but feel like there is something wrong with me.
And yes I have talked to him about how it makes me feel.
I have tried offering myself in the day time but he just puts me off.
On the weekends he likes to sleep most of the time so I don’t know what to do.
I wouldn't say there is something wrong with you but something wrong with him that he is hiding from you. I'm not saying it's another woman but there is something he isn't willing to discuss with you. He puts you off and he sleeps a lot - he could be depressed or just avoiding the issue.
I would certainly make sure this issue is dealt with before you get married. If you are this unhappy now, marriage isn't going to be a magic wand to change it. You may wish to see if he would agree to some pre-marital counseling and bring this issue up.
It would be better to find out now and either be able to resolve it and move forward together or find out that it isn't going to change and both be able to move your separate ways and find what you are both looking for.
