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Quote From: jettav

I think a wishy washy parent is some one who wants/bares a child but doesn't discipline or follow through with what they say and do. and may even make excuses for the child.The reason why so many children are so out of control is the lack of discipline, respect and consistency in their upbringings. yes, some children may have a disorder, but the fact still stands that they need discipline and consistency, some children may be harder then others but they still need discipline and consistency. Those people who think I am a wishy washy parent just becasue I don't have a problem with people who give a swat on the bottom, well, that is only an opinion, but at least this wishy washy parent has well mannered children (not perfect) who know the rules and know that they will only be told once to stop the misbehavior (or to do as they are suppose to be doing-whatever the case might be). I can take them any where with out any problems and if there are problems, well, we leave and take care of the situation and they know better then to repeat that action and if they do repeat that action, All I have to do is say, "stop (say the action)or you go to bed(whatever the appropiate discipline is)and they make a decission and no, there are no more chances, one warning and that is it. on rare oaccasions, one might throw a temper tantrum, I walk away, let them do their thing (as long as she/no one else is getting hurt) then we talk and they go sit in time out., sometimes to bed they go. I have two precious little girls who gets many compliments on how happy and socialable they are, they have good self esteem and know that they are loved and cared for, yes little ones know whether they are loved and respected. My oldest wants to be a mommy when she grows up and she wants to be just like her mommy becasue she is the best(her words, not mine). I over heard her say this a while back and she tells her daddy that she loves her mommy, Now that sounds like a wishy washy parent!!!! (kidding-of course) I still say too many parents, especially mothers are too judgemental of othre parents (mothers) regardless of their stand on this issue. I guess ones definition of wishy washy may be different then others, but who cares! We are all in the same boat here, raising our little ones to become good, happy, productive adults and I can honestly say that my husband and I are doing exactly that. Of course we are not perfect parents but we certainly are good parents and the best for our children. Parenting is not an easy job but it certainly is rewarding and I for one am a blessed mom.