Hi, misssjane. My reference about Jen was not so much a personal one, as to make a point to the writer I was responding to. I don't know whether or not Jen is a nice person or who was at fault with the breakup. I don't think we can always go by what we see in pictures as people will often put on a public face, especially in Hollywood. They could have been trying to keep up their image as "golden couple" while who knows what was really happening. We have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.
The point I was making was to someone who seems to think that looks and youth are everything in a relationship and that other qualities are only secondary. The point I was making is that looks and youth alone are not enough to hold a relationship together. As someone who is in a long term marriage, I value things such as loyalty, a good sense of humor, intelligence, shared interests, respect, love..you get the picture. These are some of the traits that are part of my marriage which has been a success and has lasted many many years. I get the idea that the writer I was responding to is having difficulties with relationships. I'd run for the hills real fast from someone who places such low value on older women. Even if I was a 20 something I'd be wary that I would be a disposable commodity once I got older. Perhaps these are the vibes this person sends out and why would any girl want that? There was also alot of hostility and negativism in that writer's posts. Yes, the ladies must be running for the hills!!
Anyway, back to Jen...if she is as wonderful and nice as you say, perhaps she will have a brighter future with someone else soon.
