Replies to 'Breaking Up'

Quote From: white8

about you and "mitch".  Leave.  Leave now.  or you'll end up like me and trust me, nobody wants that.  if you have children, do you really want  that influence on them?  I just came out of a similar situation and the harm it has done to my son and myself is devestating.  My ex was bad about that.  Mental and emotional abuse to me, is worse than the physical.  At least the cuts bruises and broken bones heal.  The emotional and mental scaring is far more difficult to heal.  Fortunately for me there was no physical abuse in that relationship which lasted 10 long years.  My ex would not let me have friends, go out, take us anywhere, my son could not go to headstart or play with other children, and he abused drugs and alcohol, ignored us when he was home and spent the rest of the time with other women.  That said, take some more advice, dont think youre alone.  Believe it or not, I have chosen to be in a relationship that is almost identical to the one i just left.  But I have more control over this one.  I digress, sorry.  All Im saying is that if I can escape anyone can.  And of those 10 years I spent 7 trying to escape.  It was scarry, it still is scarry.  I had the support of a wonderful daughter and son-in-law, who took in her mother and little brother.  I still continue to work on my scars and build my self esteem which right now has hit rock bottom again.  Ive been working on all that he took for me for 3 years.  You can do this.  If you have no one that will help you, go to your shelter for women in your town if you have one(I did that once) but please, dont wait another 5 years to leave.  If you need additional support or to draw on someones strength, I'll gladly be there for you with mine.  If you need to or want to stay in touch here on the board I'd be happy to help.  by the way, just call me m.  oh, and ps...."great guys" dont abuse their women.

Quote From: white8

about you and "mitch".  Leave.  Leave now.  or you'll end up like me and trust me, nobody wants that.  if you have children, do you really want  that influence on them?  I just came out of a similar situation and the harm it has done to my son and myself is devestating.  My ex was bad about that.  Mental and emotional abuse to me, is worse than the physical.  At least the cuts bruises and broken bones heal.  The emotional and mental scaring is far more difficult to heal.  Fortunately for me there was no physical abuse in that relationship which lasted 10 long years.  My ex would not let me have friends, go out, take us anywhere, my son could not go to headstart or play with other children, and he abused drugs and alcohol, ignored us when he was home and spent the rest of the time with other women.  That said, take some more advice, dont think youre alone.  Believe it or not, I have chosen to be in a relationship that is almost identical to the one i just left.  But I have more control over this one.  I digress, sorry.  All Im saying is that if I can escape anyone can.  And of those 10 years I spent 7 trying to escape.  It was scarry, it still is scarry.  I had the support of a wonderful daughter and son-in-law, who took in her mother and little brother.  I still continue to work on my scars and build my self esteem which right now has hit rock bottom again.  Ive been working on all that he took for me for 3 years.  You can do this.  If you have no one that will help you, go to your shelter for women in your town if you have one(I did that once) but please, dont wait another 5 years to leave.  If you need additional support or to draw on someones strength, I'll gladly be there for you with mine.  If you need to or want to stay in touch here on the board I'd be happy to help.  by the way, just call me m.  oh, and ps...."great guys" dont abuse their women.