Replies to 'Setting Boundaries'

Even though I am married I can understand completely where you are coming from.  I also have a 14 year old boy. He is from a previous relationship.  I have been trying to tell myself that  is the problem.  But I don't really think it is. He goes to a special school because of this kind of behavior.  At the begining of the school year it was great. He did the work just like he was suppose to. But now we are back to not doing the work until he is good and ready. 

I wonder if it is just a boy thing? I also have a 12 year old boy, but he loves school and learning. I just don't know.   

I hope that your knowing that another family is going through the same things will help you feel better and more hopeful. 

I too have a 13 year old in the same situation.  She is very bright but refuses to put in the required work to get good grades.  She just doesnt care, has no emotions for the consiquenses she is going to endure because unlike your son she has B's, C's, D's and is currently failing one class.  I have enlisted the counsilor at her school, talked to several of her teachers on a regular basis, had a committee of cousilors, special education teachers, her teachers, the principle of her school to see if she has any disablities that maybe we are missing but sitting around the confrence table they all agreed she is just lazy and very social and extreamly qualified to do the work.  We are a few weeks till the end of the school year and I have given up (mostly) to all the nagging I seem to have to do and put the outcome in her hands, she will not move on to high school with all her friends if she does not pass and do the required work.  I am so fustrated because I have a beautiful and very smart daughter that just doesnt care and I do not know what else I can do. 

I think that we just need to give them love, guidance and hope that all of our values will one day set in and they will get on the right path to life.