Replies to 'Breaking Up'

In 1983 at 20 years old, I had a two month relationship with a man during training in the early months of my three-year military tour of duty. After training, we ended up being stationed in different places (him near the east coast, me in the southwest). We had an emotional parting, however, as we settled into our new lives, we lost touch. Thirteen years later, he contacts me. He is still in the military and married. We talked on the phone a few times about old times, but we didn't keep in touch. Eight years later in March 05, he contacts me again. He is atttending military school in the state I live in just two hours from the city I live in. He was now divorced. He visited me several weekends. It was a great joy to spend time with him. I began to fall in love with him. After he was finished with school in July 05 and was visiting me before he returned home, I told him I wanted to pursue our relationship and see what may develop. He said that though he liked me alot, he did not want a committed relationship. I was hurt, but I tried to be 'just a friend'. We kept in touch after he returned home and I quitely hoped that we would become a couple, but I was more hurt when it became clear that he had no desire for that. I ended our communication. Now I'm sad and depressed. Someone please help me! 

In 1983 at 20 years old, I had a two month relationship with a man during training in the early months of my three-year military tour of duty. After training, we ended up being stationed in different places (him near the east coast, me in the southwest). We had an emotional parting, however, as we settled into our new lives, we lost touch. Thirteen years later, he contacts me. He is still in the military and married. We talked on the phone a few times about old times, but we didn't keep in touch. Eight years later in March 05, he contacts me again. He is atttending military school in the state I live in just two hours from the city I live in. He was now divorced. He visited me several weekends. It was a great joy to spend time with him. I began to fall in love with him. After he was finished with school in July 05 and was visiting me before he returned home, I told him I wanted to pursue our relationship and see what may develop. He said that though he liked me alot, he did not want a committed relationship. I was hurt, but I tried to be 'just a friend'. We kept in touch after he returned home and I quitely hoped that we would become a couple, but I was more hurt when it became clear that he had no desire for that. I ended our communication. Now I'm sad and depressed. Someone please help me! 

In 1983 at 20 years old, I had a two month relationship with a man during training in the early months of my three-year military tour of duty. After training, we ended up being stationed in different places (him near the east coast, me in the southwest). We had an emotional parting, however, as we settled into our new lives, we lost touch. Thirteen years later, he contacts me. He is still in the military and married. We talked on the phone a few times about old times, but we didn't keep in touch. Eight years later in March 05, he contacts me again. He is atttending military school in the state I live in just two hours from the city I live in. He was now divorced. He visited me several weekends. It was a great joy to spend time with him. I began to fall in love with him. After he was finished with school in July 05 and was visiting me before he returned home, I told him I wanted to pursue our relationship and see what may develop. He said that though he liked me alot, he did not want a committed relationship. I was hurt, but I tried to be 'just a friend'. We kept in touch after he returned home and I quitely hoped that we would become a couple, but I was more hurt when it became clear that he had no desire for that. I ended our communication. Now I'm sad and depressed. Someone please help me!