Replies to 'The Other Woman'

When you see him, exactly what do you do. Do you have quaint dinners? Does he take you out?  

Don't be to sure that know one else knows about you either, just because you don't hear the wispers doesn't mean there is no awareness. You both know that if this got out it would hurt alot of people, yet you don't care. Don't bother saying you do because if you did you would stop this just for that very reason. Most important, you are alone alot more often then he is. Therefore, you have alot more time on your hands. That would account for your anger. It seems you spend your time thinking about him and the challenges it presents, and the fact that you don't have control over the situation only fuels you.  He, on the other hand, is eating his cake and having it too. He has his wife, do you really think he is totally wrapped up in you? If you were what he wanted when he was with her, he would find a way to lie his way away from her. He may tell you many things about her but none are truly true. Yeah, he may feel anger towards her for many of her characteristics and behavior and vice versa, but he is not going to risk losing her for you. No matter what he says. Last, how do you measure strong feelings for a man? What is it you love about him? If all you can say is you talk so well, and understand each other completely then don't bother. Those things are not built on sexual tryst 2-3 times a week in just two months. That is so much crap. You are on a spiral trip, and you cannot even imagine where it is going to end up. You are in for a hell of a trip, and it is defininately not going to be a disaster. Katrina was a disaster, the Tsunamis were disaster. They were disasters because there was no way to foresee or stop them. Your situation, is controllable. You two have the power and the foresight to see where this is heading. You are destroying someone. Their way of life, how they see themselves, what they have built. You may think you got something going with this guy, but he is only screwing you over, literally. Get out while you can, before you lose everything you know and have built. You will be affected by this in every way. Whatever, self-esteem, confidence, quality of life....all of it will be gone when she discovers this, and she will.