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December 19, 2005, 6:27 am PST
 Quote From: lucky35 Hi Steph, my husband is 28 and I'm 35. He does try really hard, but he just never seems to follow-through with any project. Thank you though for giving me hope of having a good marriage with all this education difference between us. He has been my rock for pursuing my dreams and I know I couldn't have done it or done it nearly as easily without him. He loves to skateboard and he works nights, but he never takes my advice on anything and it always usually backfires on him in the end. I just can't quit thinking about "what ifs". What if he had received his BSN (bachelors of science in nursing). Our lives would be totally different. I MEAN TOTALLY!! If you have any kind of similar story within your relationship please tell me, so I'll feel better!! LOL How long have ya'll been married? What is the one thing that your husband has done that you can't seem to get over? In all honesty, my husband I don't think would ever cheat on me and to me, that is worth his weight in gold! LOL I've had girlfriends tell me this too. He has to feel bad about not finishing school and only making $6.00/hour-tax free, right? I don't know. I am committed Stephanie and I want to make it work. We've just been through a lot already these first 2 years. Thanks again for your advice, it's been wonderful! My husband and I have been married for a little over two years now. When we first got married my husband was making 7/hr cash. He had enough to take care of his needs but not much anything else. After him "playing around and looking for a new job that payed more where he worked more than 3 days a week. I was at my wits end there for a while. He'd come home at noon and sit watching television all day because they finished a job or it was raining. The straw that broke the camels back with the whole job thing was when I founfdout I was 3 months pregnant. I have to give him credit where credit is due however he stepped up to the plate and now make just as much or more than me a year. There is nothing my husband has done that I can't forgive. Yeah there have been times when he's been upset and said a crappy thing or two but honestly who hasn't. He would never cheat on me and is a wonderful father. I feel that you may be feeling all of this stress because of the time of year it is. Not only that but you have to remember we feel in love with our husbands not knowing what the future would bring and I don't know about you but I don't think I'd ever want to start over and re-do the first two years with anyone! I love my husband even though his mother is nuts... lol... Just keep your head high and it will all work out I'm sure. Well i'm going to finish my christmas shopping.. Stephanie |
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December 19, 2005, 9:48 am PST
Quote From: lucky35 Hi Steph, my husband is 28 and I'm 35. He does try really hard, but he just never seems to follow-through with any project. Thank you though for giving me hope of having a good marriage with all this education difference between us. He has been my rock for pursuing my dreams and I know I couldn't have done it or done it nearly as easily without him. He loves to skateboard and he works nights, but he never takes my advice on anything and it always usually backfires on him in the end. I just can't quit thinking about "what ifs". What if he had received his BSN (bachelors of science in nursing). Our lives would be totally different. I MEAN TOTALLY!! If you have any kind of similar story within your relationship please tell me, so I'll feel better!! LOL How long have ya'll been married? What is the one thing that your husband has done that you can't seem to get over? In all honesty, my husband I don't think would ever cheat on me and to me, that is worth his weight in gold! LOL I've had girlfriends tell me this too. He has to feel bad about not finishing school and only making $6.00/hour-tax free, right? I don't know. I am committed Stephanie and I want to make it work. We've just been through a lot already these first 2 years. Thanks again for your advice, it's been wonderful! Is your husband currently working as an LNA or nursing assistant? If he is, and there is such a need for nurses right now, that the facility might be willing and able to "comp" him college courses to finish his nursing degree with an assurance that he goes to work for them after graduation. He is 28, and while I truly believe in sowing your wild oats before you get married, once you DO marry, you have to jump on the bandwagon. My husband is 56, and will finish his bachelors degree in Feb of 2006. Hmmm why so long? Because when I married him, I strongly told him that our future kids would need to have role models for their education. He is incredibly smart, and has gone through a 4 year program while working full time with a 4.0 average at Drexel University(yes, as a matter of fact, I DO brag about him)- it was just an issue of desire on his part, and I credit myself for putting it there......(nag vs. creating an issue of desire) Get him working in the field and the opportunities will arise- |
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