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Bud, you have to let her go. She has apparently made her choices, and they don't seem to include you. I'm sorry, but that is how I see it. Now that may be a little harsh, but sometimes we need to face reality. 

The Bible has been a great source of inspiration for me in my trials and there is one thing that it says, "bless those that curse you, love them that spitefully use you..."  

Forgiveness is an act where you give up the right to exact revenge or retribution completely. Forgiveness is for you to let go of your hurt and anger and move away from the pain and anguish. In actual fact, if you look at it, your pain and hurt is not affecting her one little bit. Yet it is eating you up inside. She feels nothing, you are in AGONY! Forgive her and let it go once and for all. 

Wanna giggle? Yesterday I did something. I sent her an sms accepting the invite to spend Christmas with her, and asking where we were going to be for christmas, as she had previously invited me to her family for Christmas before the breakup. 

My phone rang almost instantly after the sms went thru!!! She was Angry, man! She started to ask me what I was playing at and didn't for one second think  that I was joking!! Then the new man took the cellphone from her and proceeded to intimidate , threaten, curse at, call me names and all I did was sit and listen to him. Every now and then I would say something and goad him into a bigger rage and he just proved my thinking of who and what he is.  

And when the call finally ended, I had to laugh, because that is EXACTLY what I had expected. 

So, find a reason to laugh, have fun and let her go. Move on with YOUR life Bud, don't give her anymore power in your heart and soul. Let her go, move ahead, and make it GREAT. Theere is someone Superb waiting for you when you wipe your eyes clean again. Just you wait and see. and she will be FAR better for you than Sara ever was. 

Merry Christmas, God bless and keep you, His grace and mercy to you. 

Ali