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My son will be 1 in January and I have done everything myself. Getting up  every two hours...comforting...feeding...everything since he was born. At first I felt like well..my husband has to work so I will do it all so he can get some sleep. I thought he would have been more involved, and it still suprises me that he isn't. Now that he's almost walking he wants to play with him, but he has NEVER just grabbed him and said he needs a bath and took him to give him a bath or I think he's hungry...let me go feed him. Enough about me, I'm sure you've gathered it's quite the same.  My husband has gotten better because I say to him, "why do you act as though feeding your child is a job?" " Your son just loves you and misses you all day, that is why he won't let go of you!" "When he notices a stinky diaper or the other, I say finders keepers" It's their job other than financially to take care of the children too and I can't imagine doing it with two. They really don't realize that yes, it's hard, but its so rewarding too. They are missing out on the development of their children. Some fathers only seem to want to be a part of the fun stuff and leave the rest for mommy, but they don't realize that maintaining and home and children (with the biggest baby being the husband) is quite challenging. I told my husband before and I will say it every time, "if you budge me one more time because you hear the baby on the monitor, or if you act like "your" child is aggravating you..then that is just wrong. That baby loves you and most of all needs you as well as me. I try and make him remember his own father taking care of him.. I know I remember my daddy rubbing my head until I fell asleep and staying up with me anytime I needed him. That's what they are for. Good luck to you. You should really put your foot down and tell him that you need space just as well as anyone else does and that you are NOT A MACHINE... That 's one of my quotes. I know things will get better,but not if you don't say anything. Don't let it linger, that could ruin your marriage. 

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