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January 16, 2006, 5:02 pm PST
I believe you misunderstood
Quote From: charmom2I am new to this sight and just reading your story. I am saddenby this . I am a single parent of 2 children and have datedother single parents. I do know that if I am dating someone for as long as you I would be upset that I am not more a part of his life let alone his child's. This has been going on for too many years as it is. I would say you should go to the party and if there is a problem explain to the little girl that it isn't you , but the mom that doesn't want you there and then have her mother explain the reasoning. As for the faither , well I would dump him if he can't stand up for you and himself. You need to find someone who want a family picture with you to send to his family and if he has children include them. The little girl is going to be 5 and will understand. If you are unconfortable bring your best friend or sister with you. ( bring a very nice gift too) enjoy yourself. You never know you may feel better about yourself. The problem isn't my boyfriend it is the mother. I am very much a part of both his life as well as his daughter. We go on vacation together. I'm always there when she comes over on his weekends. I can go to her birthday party, my boyfriend has told me he has no problem with me attending and that he would support my decesion. The problem is that I do not want her mother to start a scene. She had a tantrum at her daughters second birthday when my name was mentioned I could only imagine what she would do if I actually showed up. The picture that he took with her mother and her happened once and never again, (he also didn't send the pictures to anyone they are in the closet) I mentioned that because I wanted to know if I was overeacting when I got upset and told him how alienated I felt. I wanted to know if it was appropriate or was I being selfish. Like I said before i'm just worried about what her mother will try to tell her to get back at us because she doesn't want me to be a part of her daughters life. For as long as I have been around she has tried to paint a picture to her daughter of me being a mean and horrible person. I was torn as to wether to go to the party b/c of what the repercussions might be. I just wanted to know should I stay away from parties and other functions in her life to avoid controversy or should I go b/c his daughter asks me.
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