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August 8, 2005, 9:24 am PDT

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Dear DrPhil im 16 my and my my name is mat i have no life no firends. Let me tell you why... well at my last school i was bullied alot and like half the school new me and didint want a thing to do with me it was horrible and painfull. now that iv moved and live in a new house my life has cganged and im not bullied at my new school has much much has i was at my last school. but it still happens and its ussualy the dope addcitcs and stoners who bullie me wich makes up 60 percent of the school. at my new school one guy decided to litterale throw a chair at me in class while the techer went in a another room for a sec. All i do all day is sit in the house waching tv or playing on the computer. i dont have any firends becuase iv never relly had any iv had firends but thos frendships didint last that long. i never relly had firends so i dont know how to make firends that well. i dont know wat im going to if i stay in this house anylonger ill will go sico. when people ask me if i have firends which has happend. i dont know what to tell them ecept  that i have firends when i relly dont DrPhile i could use your help relly bad. i hope you read this message 

What would you like to do, if not playing on the computer or watching TV? I'm alot older than you, but I used to be known as shy, or even stupid in high school. I know school has changed quite a bit since I was there in the dark ages, but loneliness always feels the same. I don't think Dr Phil reads these boards, it's for people to contact others with questions or support. If you want to write to the doc, go up there to "Contact Dr. Phil."
 
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November 14, 2005, 7:54 pm PST

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Dear DrPhil im 16 my and my my name is mat i have no life no firends. Let me tell you why... well at my last school i was bullied alot and like half the school new me and didint want a thing to do with me it was horrible and painfull. now that iv moved and live in a new house my life has cganged and im not bullied at my new school has much much has i was at my last school. but it still happens and its ussualy the dope addcitcs and stoners who bullie me wich makes up 60 percent of the school. at my new school one guy decided to litterale throw a chair at me in class while the techer went in a another room for a sec. All i do all day is sit in the house waching tv or playing on the computer. i dont have any firends becuase iv never relly had any iv had firends but thos frendships didint last that long. i never relly had firends so i dont know how to make firends that well. i dont know wat im going to if i stay in this house anylonger ill will go sico. when people ask me if i have firends which has happend. i dont know what to tell them ecept  that i have firends when i relly dont DrPhile i could use your help relly bad. i hope you read this message 

hi mat, i totally understand how you feel, i was bullied at highschool, i ended up leaving because i couildnt put up with it naymore, i am more depressed now then when i was before, because i now get bullied by my parents, i was bullied because of my weight, everyday i have to put up with my parents telling me im fat, overweight, i play sport, they tell me im goingto struggle because im 2 fat. 

it hurts and upsets me, i never thought id hear my parents critise me because of my looks. 

i hope it all goes well for you. 

  
 
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December 6, 2005, 4:31 am PST

I can relate

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Dear DrPhil im 16 my and my my name is mat i have no life no firends. Let me tell you why... well at my last school i was bullied alot and like half the school new me and didint want a thing to do with me it was horrible and painfull. now that iv moved and live in a new house my life has cganged and im not bullied at my new school has much much has i was at my last school. but it still happens and its ussualy the dope addcitcs and stoners who bullie me wich makes up 60 percent of the school. at my new school one guy decided to litterale throw a chair at me in class while the techer went in a another room for a sec. All i do all day is sit in the house waching tv or playing on the computer. i dont have any firends becuase iv never relly had any iv had firends but thos frendships didint last that long. i never relly had firends so i dont know how to make firends that well. i dont know wat im going to if i stay in this house anylonger ill will go sico. when people ask me if i have firends which has happend. i dont know what to tell them ecept  that i have firends when i relly dont DrPhile i could use your help relly bad. i hope you read this message 

Kia ora  

I am 17 and in a similar boat, I was bullied in school aswell, People are attracted to confident people in friendships and in relationships but when youve been bullied it's hard to be confident, the only relationships ive formed after being bullied at highschool are toxic ones, it's put me off people but then you feel lonely, I wish schools had a zero tolerance for bullying it's not exceptable in the work place why is it exceptable in an enviroment that you have to be in 5 days a week, an enviroment that you can't leave, Pain is isolation and my mum told me pain is something were suppose to grow strong from, I'm not grown yet I really feel for you aye.  Kia Kaha, Be Strong Kia ora  
 
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June 17, 2006, 9:06 pm PDT

Yah, I know how that can be

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Dear DrPhil im 16 my and my my name is mat i have no life no firends. Let me tell you why... well at my last school i was bullied alot and like half the school new me and didint want a thing to do with me it was horrible and painfull. now that iv moved and live in a new house my life has cganged and im not bullied at my new school has much much has i was at my last school. but it still happens and its ussualy the dope addcitcs and stoners who bullie me wich makes up 60 percent of the school. at my new school one guy decided to litterale throw a chair at me in class while the techer went in a another room for a sec. All i do all day is sit in the house waching tv or playing on the computer. i dont have any firends becuase iv never relly had any iv had firends but thos frendships didint last that long. i never relly had firends so i dont know how to make firends that well. i dont know wat im going to if i stay in this house anylonger ill will go sico. when people ask me if i have firends which has happend. i dont know what to tell them ecept  that i have firends when i relly dont DrPhile i could use your help relly bad. i hope you read this message 

It's not very easy when you're surrounded by people that are into drugs and bully you. I had a bad experience with my jr high and high school where I grew up. People get stuck in a downward spiral and when you knew only that kind of impression, you have a hard time trusting anyone. I've learned that a smile can open a door, sometimes you get a smile back and maybe a bit of small talk if they're feeling friendly. I've made a lot of friends just by smiling and asking how is everything. People like to talk if they know that someone cares about them. That's a good start. :)  

  

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August 13, 2007, 2:34 pm PDT

Difficulty Forming Friendships

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Dear DrPhil im 16 my and my my name is mat i have no life no firends. Let me tell you why... well at my last school i was bullied alot and like half the school new me and didint want a thing to do with me it was horrible and painfull. now that iv moved and live in a new house my life has cganged and im not bullied at my new school has much much has i was at my last school. but it still happens and its ussualy the dope addcitcs and stoners who bullie me wich makes up 60 percent of the school. at my new school one guy decided to litterale throw a chair at me in class while the techer went in a another room for a sec. All i do all day is sit in the house waching tv or playing on the computer. i dont have any firends becuase iv never relly had any iv had firends but thos frendships didint last that long. i never relly had firends so i dont know how to make firends that well. i dont know wat im going to if i stay in this house anylonger ill will go sico. when people ask me if i have firends which has happend. i dont know what to tell them ecept  that i have firends when i relly dont DrPhile i could use your help relly bad. i hope you read this message 

Hey, I'm not Dr Phil but I hope I can help a little.  I would like to start by saying that I never had any friends when I was younger.  I always moved around and I was always the "new kids" for a few months, and then I would move again.  I never had any real friends till I was about 16-19 years old.  The whole time I was a real b---ch to everyone.  I got to the point where I didn't care what anyone thought of me... and if someone was nice to me I thought they were strange.  Well I'm now 30 years old and I look back and realize that people are made up of the same stuff in one way or another.  The biggest mistake I made was assuming that people didn't like me.  I now see that I closed myself off from everyone.  You need to ask people about themselves and thier life.  Act interested in what they have to say... at first you might not care much lol.  But in time you will see that you have more in commen with others than you thought.  You will make some connections with people that you never expected.  So, like I said... ask questions.  Act interested (even if your not at first) and just listen to what they have to say.  Good luck.  I hope things go better for you.
 
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