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December 23, 2005, 4:58 pm PST

Getting Pregnant

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Hello, im 15 years old and i just am dieing to have a baby. I wanted one since i was 13 years old. I tried and did not work. My boyfriend then broke up with me and i got so depressed and started cutting and trying to comitte suiside. i dont know what to do anymore, im not jsut goping to have a baby with some guy. I really miss my ex boyfriend and i just wish i could have him back. i want this baby so bad, and would buy them everything. i work, and go to school i am ready. my parernt would also help me. but everyone keeps saying im so stupid im too young but i dont understand there not me, how would they know. im sick and tired of it. what do i do
  • You are a baby. Having one will not get you back with your boyfriend. He will not be around and you will be left for all the care of the baby. Go to school, get a good job and then meet a nice boy get married and have as many as you like.
 
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December 23, 2005, 6:59 pm PST

Getting Pregnant

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Hello, im 15 years old and i just am dieing to have a baby. I wanted one since i was 13 years old. I tried and did not work. My boyfriend then broke up with me and i got so depressed and started cutting and trying to comitte suiside. i dont know what to do anymore, im not jsut goping to have a baby with some guy. I really miss my ex boyfriend and i just wish i could have him back. i want this baby so bad, and would buy them everything. i work, and go to school i am ready. my parernt would also help me. but everyone keeps saying im so stupid im too young but i dont understand there not me, how would they know. im sick and tired of it. what do i do
 Honey, I was exactly the same way when I was your age.  But listen, I am 23 now, have been to college, have a car, and have tons of family support.  I'm a single mom of a 5-month-old boy, and it's not easy NOW!!  I am happy to have him, but I wish with all my heart that I was married, had a house of my own, and had total financial security.  I could have enjoyed my pregnancy so much more with a husband, and every day I'm reminded that I'm a single mom.  Chances are pretty good that if you had a baby now, the father wouldn't stick around.

Think....if it is hard for me, a college graduate, at 23, just imagine how it would be for you, at 15, and not out of high school.  Do your future child a favour and wait.  Remember, this is not a BABY you are talking about, it's a CHILD...a whole other PERSON, who's life will forever be affected by your decisions.  Give him/her the best chance in life...wait a few years...it may seem a long way off now, but trust me, one day you will wonder where all the time has gone!
 
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February 12, 2006, 6:44 pm PST

Getting Pregnant

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Hello, im 15 years old and i just am dieing to have a baby. I wanted one since i was 13 years old. I tried and did not work. My boyfriend then broke up with me and i got so depressed and started cutting and trying to comitte suiside. i dont know what to do anymore, im not jsut goping to have a baby with some guy. I really miss my ex boyfriend and i just wish i could have him back. i want this baby so bad, and would buy them everything. i work, and go to school i am ready. my parernt would also help me. but everyone keeps saying im so stupid im too young but i dont understand there not me, how would they know. im sick and tired of it. what do i do

I had my daughter when I was 17 an not out of high school- It was very hard and very stressful time for me and everyone around me- I wasn't with the father- and of course I thought I would be but also didn't plan to get pregnant either and I was living wherever because my parents were upset with me- They expected there little girl to grow up before there baby had a baby- I ended up having to complete High school early so I was able to graduate and give birth to my baby with out missing any school. I was a single mother for 4 years- and it was the hardest job that anyone could be- I would have done anything to bring back the going to prom my senior year going to parties with friends and being a teen but instead I was home because I was pregnant-   

I am now 24 and married for 5 months to a great man- We have a 3 year old daughter together and are trying to have another- He has now adopted my 6 year old - cause her dad was never around and it was so hard on her to deal with that- Thats why I wish I would have waited till I was married so my daughter didn't have to grow up to know her dad was never around for her-   

My advise to you is WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED AND YOU FIND THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE- YOU MIGHT WANT A BABY BUT A BABY IS BY NO MEANS GOING TO KEEP YOU WITH THE FATHER / BOYFRIEND- EVERYTHING CHANGES WHEN A BABY COMES- YOUR LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME YOU NOT ONLY HAVE TO CARE FOR YOURSELF BUT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING-   

PLEASE TAKE A MINUTE TO THINK ABOUT EACH AND EVERYTHING YOU DO AND PLACES YOU GO ON A DAILY BASES AND THINK- WHAT IF I HAD A BABY COULD I DO THIS OR THAT??? PROBABLY NOT- ENJOY YOUR LIFE WHILE YOU ARE STILL YOUNG AND YOU HAVE THE CHANCE-  

MUCH LOVE-  

B-BAUER  
 
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February 14, 2006, 12:35 am PST

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Hello, im 15 years old and i just am dieing to have a baby. I wanted one since i was 13 years old. I tried and did not work. My boyfriend then broke up with me and i got so depressed and started cutting and trying to comitte suiside. i dont know what to do anymore, im not jsut goping to have a baby with some guy. I really miss my ex boyfriend and i just wish i could have him back. i want this baby so bad, and would buy them everything. i work, and go to school i am ready. my parernt would also help me. but everyone keeps saying im so stupid im too young but i dont understand there not me, how would they know. im sick and tired of it. what do i do
Hello Allyssa just thought I would let you know my opinion of your story . Yes I agree everyone says u r to young , in a way I agree. In other ways I disagree , I was 14 when I got pregnant I had a miscarrage . All I'm going to say is finish school and get finacially stable. Find someone that shares the same veiw as u do . Make sure u don't rush in to something u might regret in the end . Just think about it a little more . I'm sure there are classes out there that will prepare u for motherhood before u even have a baby . Maybe that might change u r outlook on the whole aspect .
 
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December 4, 2006, 1:55 pm PST

Getting Pregnant

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Hello, im 15 years old and i just am dieing to have a baby. I wanted one since i was 13 years old. I tried and did not work. My boyfriend then broke up with me and i got so depressed and started cutting and trying to comitte suiside. i dont know what to do anymore, im not jsut goping to have a baby with some guy. I really miss my ex boyfriend and i just wish i could have him back. i want this baby so bad, and would buy them everything. i work, and go to school i am ready. my parernt would also help me. but everyone keeps saying im so stupid im too young but i dont understand there not me, how would they know. im sick and tired of it. what do i do

Heyyy

  So I understand where you are coming from im 17 years old, and have been there sorta. When I was 14 my ex boyfriend was 16 and well we were together for 2 years and We wanted to have a baby.. and I was like hey if I have a kid he will have to stay with me forever... but one we tried and it didnt work 2. they wouldnt necessarley stay with you. Honestley I know you hatttte hearing this but we are too young. It's so much we have our wholeeeee lifes ahead of us and plenty of time to have babies. And When my ex bf dumped me lord i was depressed wore nothing but sweat pants to school cried and cried till i made myself sick. for 3 months i waited for him and then he asked me back out i said yes then broke up w. him a week later. WHY? Cause any guy who makes me cry is not worth it. There are SO MANY GUYS OUT THERE. And now i have the most amazing bf ever =] and im happy. Trust me when I say you don't want to deal with a baby right now. I know they are cute and they would be yours to call your own. But waking up at 2 am and 3 am isnt fun. And not being able to go out with your friends go to school football games, go to dances, partys would suck. And you dont want to have your mom babysit... on onccasion it would be okay but if you have a baby and keep it its your responcibility.. no one esles. Know what I mean!! Just think about it babe.

 

 
 
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