Quote From: prinscbTo answer your questions in general.....Yes! We split up in '02 for about 3 weeks. I came back home and things were great for about 4 months or so. I was discouraged a lot of the time. I mean, every holiday, birthday, "anniversary", etc., I would get my hopes up that he would propose. And yes, we were living together. We've lived together 5 1/2 out of the 6 years that we've been together. I felt the same way about my bf....as far as me paying for what his ex did to him. He got her a promise ring after they had been together for 3 1/2 years or so. She cheated on him. It broke his heart. He didn't trust me for the longest time. I would make it VERY clear to him that his not trusting me because of what had happened to him was SO NOT FAIR. I told him I AM NOT HER. I ended up paying for her mistake for about 2 years.
We have always wanted the same things for our future (i.e. living out in the country, eventually having two kids, etc.). But, yes, it was extremely discouraging not having that "committment" and knowing that he could throw me out of his house at any given moment. Like I said about holidays, etc. WOW was I depressed, time and time again. (Back in '02 after we got back together, we actually went looking for rings.) Yep, just got it last month! This relationship has really taught me patience.
If you believe in your heart that he is the one, dig your heels in. Talk to him. BUT, whatever you do....DON'T PUSH HIM. It's easier said than done.
By the way, how old are you guys and how long have you been together?
We are both 46, and will have been dating for two years next month. He had 2 ex wives that cheated on him. The first was a run-of-the mill bar floozy, and the second did a huge number on him, having him give up things in his career, and raising her 4 kids. She wouldn't even leave her state to be with him when he was transferred...
