When I was younger, my Dad used to pick at me all the time. By pick, I mean, grab my knee and give me a "horse bite", squeeze my fingers, tickle and just generally pester the heck out of me. I would ALWAYS laugh. tell him to "quit it" and sometimes I'd get mad too. I knew it was his way of showing affection. And admittedly, I do this to my kids. But my Dad never goosed me and the closer I got to "growing up" even hugging became less and less.
That is probably all that was happening with your daughter's Dad -- his way of showing affection and I'm sure he meant NOTHING sexual by it.
BUT... As a young girl approaches puberty, that kind of behavior from Dad becomes unacceptable.
And you and your daughter are the best judges of what is acceptable. So if that were MY daughter, I'd be having a frank discussion with him about stopping what MIGHT be perceived the wrong way. In addition it may be VERY embarassing to your daughter and if so, Dad REALLY needs to respect his daughter's boundary.
If he can't or doesn't listen, bring it up at y'all's GROUP counseling session.
Q
