Counseling!!
I also would write down in a notebook, all the things I felt about
myself. At that time it was all negative. My therapist would read
the list and then have me change all of them into a positive.
It was very hard for me to do, but writing it down and then having
to read it back to her the following week (even harder) really did make
a difference.
I think one of the hardest (just one, lol) was to trust my gut and my
perceptions of things. I used to always think that if I felt funny around
a guy that it was because I was abused. When in reality, it was that the
guy was really a jerk. Also that I was responsible for everything bad
that happened to all around me.
Even when I was being abused by my mothers 4th husband, in front of her.
She would tell me that I just needed to get used to it, because he was just
affectionate. It was really confusing for me, because it felt so wrong
and yet my mother was saying that it was OK. So that is what I mean when
I say to trust your gut. I know not everyone had the same experiences as
me, but still I think most of us struggle with that.
