Quote From: tierd5I feel like a single mom of 4 kids but the last time I checked I only went through 3 labors. My husband wont clean up after himself or anything. He says that his job is really hard and that I don't have anything better to do. I have a son who was diagnosed with ADHD and Aspergers syndrome he sees a psychiatrist once a month and sometimes more depending on his mood. I have to drive an hour to take him. I also have a daughter who is having a real hard time with school and a daughter with asthma. With all of this to deal with it would be nice to have a husband who would be supportive in the things I do. I have told him that I am tired of him not listening to my problems and always wanting me to feel sorry for him, and that I am seriously thinking about divorce, but he doesn't even seem to realize that I am serious. I know that the man wont even consider counseling, because he thinks there's nothing wrong. What am I to do?
Sounds alot like my Fiancee, we recently just had a boy he's going on 3 months. He has a daughter who is 5 from another girl, after being together for 3 years off and on we had our son. I stay home with him and my boyfriend works 50+ hours a week, I take care of our son during the day, clean the house, and have dinner ready when he comes home. We have dinner together and then he'll just get up from the table and go to the couch he doesn't bother picking up after himself. The other night after he was done dinner I asked if he would finish feeding our son so that I could finish dinner and he said no. He said he worked all day and that he just wanted to relax. What about me, staying home taking care of our son and cleaning up after him is easy? He says how hard is it to stay home and take care of an infant. THen he tells me apparently you have to go back to work so your not sitting home all day long thinking about us.
He said our son is my responsibility until he's 4 and can go do things with dad.
I don't know how to make him see that taking care of everything is as easy as he thinks it is. But because he is out making money to pay all the bills and support are family in those ways I'm not allowed to get on his case about helping me out around the house. He says your only worry is our son.
Don't know what to do anymore, he never cares to know how I feel about situations, he says I don't care just fix the problem. I don't think our problems are all me, but he makes me feel like every situation that arises within our family is my fault.
