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January 4, 2006, 10:16 am PST
 Quote From: dlynn_pa My daughter and I have an open relationship. She tells me so much sometimes I don't want to hear it but I am glad she can come to me with anything. I am afraid that she doesn't tell me everything; I am so scared for her. I don't want her to do anything she will regret when she gets older and I hope she will make the right decision if something should arise. I tell her to ask herself that very question before she makes a decision, "Is this something I may regret?”
She has gone through so many friendships over the past 2 years. The kids she brings home seem so nice at first and then they are complete jerk offs in a week or two. The things they do to one another are amazing. My daughter has had her heart broken so many times that it took away that innocence she once possessed. She no longer has trust in people and keeps them away at arms length.
I am afraid to let her have sleepovers because of some of the things they have come to me wanting to do and things I have found out about. My daughter is chastised because she doesn't want to smoke and drink, get in fights, and act like a moron. Ironically enough, the girls that do this to her obviously need some kind of relationship with their parents because it is just not there. I say this because I have seen it with my own eyes. The parents are so quick to dump their children off on someone else so they can go drink and have a good time. It's not right.
You are obviously a good mother for your daughter to want to be open with you. In my opinion, you should let your daughter have sleepovers--at YOUR house. You should be involved in them. That way you are the responsible party. I have a difficult time trusting others to care for my children because someone else will never love my child like I do. My children's safety is a priority to me, and it may not be a priority to someone else. The only time I was "up to no good" as a child was when I was out with friends, and away from my parents. The best thing for you to do is to love your daughter unconditionally and set the best example for her that you can. You should be the biggest influence in her life because, in reality, you're not always going to be there to keep an eye on her. Parenting is not easy. I have 3 daughters myself and know what you are feeling. But I also know that today, tomorrow, and until they grow up and move out, I have to be the best mother that I can be for them. I want to some day look at my daughters and say, "I did a good job in raising them." Be your daughters' best friend, so that when she is compromised with making a decision between right and wrong she will ask herself, "If my mom finds out, how will this make her feel?" Which is the same as the question you've placed in her mind, "Is this something I may regret later?" Just something to ponder... |
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