Replies to 'My Friend/Relative Won't Discipline!'

First of all, I was taught at a VERY early age that we were to behave at the dinner table.   We were not allowed to bring food and drinks away from the table, into the living room and on the furniture. When we were loud and started playing at the table, my dad looked at us directly without saying a word, and we knew exactly what that meant.  For all purposes, my dad has spanked me once in my life, and I am 32 with a 10 yr old daughter. We knew that look meant business. Even today we know that look. Talking in a normal tone of voice and even a little laugh was tolerated but that was the line.  I however teach my daughter the same thing. I started this when she was old enough to know any better at all.  Further more, if I let my child act that way at home, then she'll do this out in public.  Most importantly, playing at the table is opening the door for one to get choked on their food either way, and I have always expressed this to my daughter and my nieces-in a very serious way.  Kids can and have died from choking on food, just another good reason to talk to your children about playing at the table--aside from respect for the food.  Not being harsh, because I have my moments, but if you are stern in what you say and you discipline in a way that is effective, then you can take control of this situation, otherwise, this is what you will deal with from now on and everyone else who tends to your children.  I dont suggest eating one at a time, because this should be a time for the family to be together, which is something almost uncommon these days.  If youre playing games, then obviously everyone is talking with a mouthful and I also see this as disrepect and ill mannered.  So, try discussing new meal time rules before time to eat.  Let them know that you are serious and there are consequences if they can not follow those rules.  Explain how important this time is to you and to be with them all at once.  You can make this pleasant without all the noise.