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January 18, 2006, 11:15 pm PST
Been There
Quote From: beckycaddyEven though I am married I can understand completely where you are coming from. I also have a 14 year old boy. He is from a previous relationship. I have been trying to tell myself that is the problem. But I don't really think it is. He goes to a special school because of this kind of behavior. At the begining of the school year it was great. He did the work just like he was suppose to. But now we are back to not doing the work until he is good and ready.
I wonder if it is just a boy thing? I also have a 12 year old boy, but he loves school and learning. I just don't know.
I hope that your knowing that another family is going through the same things will help you feel better and more hopeful. My son, now 20, started underachieving when he was about 15 or so; grades deteriorated, he became obsessed with chatting online, computer gaming, etc. I wish I had taken away the computer then. I too consulted his teachers, two school counsellors, hired tutors, etc., etc. He is still underachieving, flunked out of college, working only part-time, mooching off his girlfriend's family, has not enough money to move out on his own. I suspect we did too much for him. Watch yourself that you are not trying to do so much for him that you are not allowing him to succeed on his own. Encourage any little positive thing you see him do. Catch him being good.
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