Replies to 'Breaking Up'

I'm sitting here reading your message and your writing that this guy abuses alcohol, drugs, and you??  Get out of this relationship as quick as you can!! You two are only dating right now and he's treating you this badly?? Everyone deserves someone who will treat them with nothing but respect, and love! There is someone out there for you who will love you for who you are; and this includes your personal life: friends, going places, etc.!  Don't settle for less than you deserve! I can tell you this from my own experience! I was in a relationship for almost 4 years with a guy that treated me like crap most of the time! I understand how it's hard to leave, it's a bit scary to get out into the single world again, and it takes amazing strength to get out of a situation like that! But, do it! Get out now when you don't have any attachments! Respect yourself, and allow yourself to be happy and live the best life you can! That right guy who will treat you the way you deserve will find you soon I'm sure!! Take care of yourself ok! 

 I can relate. I've been living with a guy for 5 months, we moved into together after 3 months of dating. A month into living together, he started getting verbally abusive towards me, his kids when they visit, and to anything that gets in his way. I told him in December that I can't be with someone who blows-up like he does, he stopped, and said he would go to counceling. We've been going for a few weeks now, and he's made a big improvement, but deep down I'm afraid to trust that he won't go back to the way he was before. The councler keeps telling me to give him a chance, but I'm affraid. My ex was like that for 8 years, and that's why we divorced. 

 Any thoughts??? 

 Lisa