Quote From: motherfryI 'm a mother of 4 children. I have two sons 21. I have 2 daughters 19 and 20. My daughter 20 had been engaged for 2 years now. We are planning a Oct. wedding. My daughter 19 recently got an engagement ring with plans to finish college first thinking of a date in 2009. My son came home from the Army and ask his girlfreind to marry him . Of course she said yes. They now want to get married in a few years. Here is my problem. I'm a single mother on a fixed income. I have been planning my oldest daughter wedding and slowly paying ahead. Wanting to be fair to everyone. How do I decide how to pay for who's next. My daughter beleives that my son should wait his turn in line if he wants mom to pay for it. My son thinks since he is the oldest I should pay / plan his first. I feel really torn right now. I want to be fair. I want them both to have the most exciting day of their lives to be the best. Their father is still in the picture however he is totally disabled from an accident and is living on a tight budget also., Please someone anyone give me some advise to help clear my head...
Traditionally, it is the family of the bride who is supposed to pay for most of the wedding expenses. Given that, why is your son looking for you to pay for his wedding? Is the family of your son's fiance able to pay for a wedding? You said you were a single parent, so I must ask where their father is in this picture. Furthermore, I think you children might need to face the reality of the situation... two (three) of are getting married, THAT'S A LOT OF MONEY (I am planning a wedding of my own right now). This means they might not get their dream wedding, that means they might just have to cut some corners, it means they might have to pay for some/most of it themselves. As far as who's get's paif for in what order (don't tell them!) but who is getting married first? Clearly when they get married will dictate when the money is due. It might not be "fair" but I'm not hotels, DJ, and photographer don't care about what's "Fair," they just want their money.
