Quote From: alerriThanks for the advice. I know everything you said is true, but I can honestly say that I am not ready to accept that I am worth leaving him. I am not sure that I can survive without him. I was only 16 when we got married so I have always depended on him. I don't know if I have the ability to be a single Mother. I don't think I could pay to keep our house so it would mean moving the boys, probably to my Mothers and it is all just to scary for me.
Also my husband and I are going to marriage counseling but I know I can not mention the sex in my sleep thing. He has never threatened me or said anything about it but he knows we have a mutual agreement. I think it makes me just as ashamed as it does him. It will be a long time before I am ready to talk about it face to face with anyone.
We are addressing him asking his sister-in-law to sleep with him but I am really feeling like we are getting no where. I feel very drained and tired of trying, and I am way to young to feel like this.
Anyway it was not my intention to drag this message out so long. Again thanks for the welcome and for telling me everything I already know. Now if you only have some ideas on how to accept it send them my way.
Alison
She is right on. If you don't believe you are worth it, ask the marriage counselor about individual counseling, maybe you will open up to someone who is there just for you. If you can't ask in front of the H, leave a note or an email or call.
Early on I felt alone, and worthless too, but I wasn't sexually abused.
Accepting it is a mistake. It will make you sick. I now have MS and truly believe it is because I tried acceptint everything. Luckily, I am not disabled as of yet, but I have also stopped internalizing my own hubby's crap. He does wear on me tho'.
Don't worry about "dragging this message out so long" you DO deserve attention and help.
