Replies to 'Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?'

Speaking only from personal experience the question begs to be asked...what is the attitude of the lady?....is she demanding?...pushy?...arrogant in her request?...while I am in know way insinuating that is your attitude, I have found that when a woman acts this way in my presence I dont stay in hers very long.   Its a turn off.  You get what you give.  

after talking with my lady , her experience has been that younger men tend to be more selfish and seeking their own pleasure. Most are so full of themselves they really dont know who they are.  Maybe thats the difference between sex and sex, love and passion combined.  Personally i gain no satisfaction unless my woman is pleased.  My lady knows this not by my words but by my actions and because of my putting her first "what goes around comes around" ya know? 

Part of the problem i also believe is that we live in a "fast food" mentality.  go in get it quick and get out....i believe this mentality has pervaded every aspect of human life and this is not just a problem that women have experienced from men.  

  Sex to a guy seems in my opinion to revolve more around their penis and there tends to be a preoccupation with it.....along with the pressure to perform (real or unreal). Especially with younger guys. what i have learned...and what my lady has reiterated is that to a woman its not about the  penis but about the experience.  Martians meet Venutians. 

I hope this helps in someway