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August 10, 2005, 8:04 am PDT
the emote sign says it all
Quote From: jettavI didn't mean to offend here as that is never my intent on these boards and as far as my parenting style, I am the best parent in the whole wide world for my children and I am quite confident, no regrets and doubts here on my side. I was only expressing my view on what wishy washy parent was as some one else (dont remember who and really don't care at this point) was basically referring to spankers as wishy washy (at least that is how I understood it) I was sticking up for spankers. and for those who do not abuse their kids and actually discipline them are not wishy washy. And yes, I do know some paretns who use the disorder as an excuse for not disciplining and it is not an excuse. My 4 1/2 year old has a disorder (which I do not discuss on these boards too much) and it sort of affects her appearance (which by the way happens when there are changes in her life and when she is over stimulated and she is gradually outgrowing it) but we did not use this thing as an excuse. in her case, we still involved her in activities and didn't change our life styles, we would talk to her a head of time and always let her know what is going on and if there are changes, we prepare her for it. positive reinforcement is what we did. Now, don't have a hissy fit, I know it is different and I did not say ALL parents use it as an excuse but it does happen a lot. And in all honesty, I really do not give a hoot what other people think about me and my parenting becasue I am a darn good parent and very proud of the way I am raising my children. And it shows in them, me and their daddy. And I have asked for help with my daughter, some I listened to, others I ignored which is an option on these boards and I honestly didn't mean to offend, I was only defining what I felt a wishy washy parent was. I think the mistake I made was to post my message under "reply with quote" which is a habit since I do it often I guess. My mistake on that part but I stick by what I posted, and I just want to express one more time, it is not my intent to offend others, just not my style and remember we are reading words and they can be interpretted in different ways. How can you say " do not mean to offend" but then go on with your post and be offensive? I read over some of your old posts and saw you have no problem with expressing your self. The nature of debating always creates offensiveness. That's how it is. That's ok. don't apologize for it. It only makes your statements less creditable. State what you mean clearly (don't bounce back and forth between ideas and never really take a side so that way you can get out of it by apologizing) and let the dust settle where it may. You said in your last post that non spankers are wishy washy. That wasn't stated anywhere in the original post. This mom was asking for help (through her cousin) with her child that physicians were not giving her any help with and you went on and demeaned advice[that was meant to help] with your own insecurities. I do agree that some parent's may not discipline due to a disorder. I am dealing with that in my own family. But that wasn't the case here. If you want to debate. I'll debate but lets get the facts straight first.
talk to you soon
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