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January 4, 2006, 11:25 am PST
AGE MEANS NOTHING
Quote From: menthol
I always thought men had the greater sex drive. I am in my second marriage. My husband is 13 years younger than me. He tells me that he doesn't "think" about sex. It doesn't occur to him. I find this has eroded my self esteem to a low. I am insecure being that much older than him to begin with. I did not see this coming. We were separated for a time when we were first married due to work in another country. Now he has been back for a year and I am totally stressed and frustrated. I have tried and tried to explain that I NEED this physical love besides the affection of kisses and hugs. It has put me into therapy for depression. I think the more he stone-walls this, the worse I get in wishing we had something more than maybe once a month. I have tried the different angles ... suggesting to downright asking. He insists that he is attracted to me and I don't suspect him having an affair. I am really just heart broken and wonder what my future will hold with a man who loves with hugs and kisses. I AM 1 1/2 YEARS INTO MY SECOND MARRIAGE. THIS TIME WITH A MAN WHO IS 10 YEARS OLDER THAN I AM. (I AM 30,HE IS 40). WE ARE LUCKY IF WE HAVE SEX ONCE A MONTH. I KNOW THAT HE FINDS ME ATTRACTIVE,BUT I AM USUALLY THE ONE TO INITIATE. MY FIRST HUSBAND WOULD OFTEN MAKE ME HAVE SEX WITH HIM. HE WAS VERY ABUSIVE ANDAFTER 10 YEARS AND 4 KIDS I FOUND THE COURAGE TO LEAVE HIM. NOW, I CANT GET ENOUGH SEX. I FEEL LIKE I NEED IT TO MAKE ME FEEL LOVED. MAYBE IN SOME TWISTED WAY THAT IS HOW MY EX FELT. ALTHOUGH, THE ABUSE IS UNEXCUSABLE.
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