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January 2, 2006, 4:03 pm PST
My Friend/Relative Won't Discipline!
Quote From: torregDear Dr.Phil,
I have recently encountered a few families that apparently don't belive in discipline. They came over to our house and tore the place appart. I was appaled at the response or lack of response from the parents. They would run into the walls and fall over laughing. Jump on our new furniture with their shoes on. Scream like they were being tortured. The parents had not one iota of a care in the world. They were laughing at these little terrors like they were funny. I love children and have been around them my whole life but when I was young, children were seen and not heard. They were respectful of their elders. What has happened? Why have parents dropped the ball? I have found that kids have respect when they have boundaries. They are truly cute when they have guidlines. Am I the only one who has picked up on this? I do not believe in the saying that kids are to be seen and not heard but I do agree that they need discipline and need to learn respect. If those kids would have been in my home doing this stuff and the parents laughing about it, I am sure they would not have been laughing by the time the night was over because I would have said something. " I would appreciate it if you would not do these things in my home. here, I have games, toys, playdough, (whatever I may have) for you to do" and lead them to an area where they can play. I always have things for kids to do when they come to my home. I have never really had that kind of a problem but I have gotten a few dirty looks from a couple parents but hey, it's my home and I expect it to be respected. You need to do something like this and don't let people come in and destroy your home and if the parents get upset and leave, then o well! Don't worry about it. You have the right to make the rules and boundaries in your home and you have the right to enforce them so go for it.
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