Quote From: tkebobbyTraditionally, it is the family of the bride who is supposed to pay for most of the wedding expenses. Given that, why is your son looking for you to pay for his wedding? Is the family of your son's fiance able to pay for a wedding? You said you were a single parent, so I must ask where their father is in this picture. Furthermore, I think you children might need to face the reality of the situation... two (three) of are getting married, THAT'S A LOT OF MONEY (I am planning a wedding of my own right now). This means they might not get their dream wedding, that means they might just have to cut some corners, it means they might have to pay for some/most of it themselves. As far as who's get's paif for in what order (don't tell them!) but who is getting married first? Clearly when they get married will dictate when the money is due. It might not be "fair" but I'm not hotels, DJ, and photographer don't care about what's "Fair," they just want their money.
As the mother of the brides I have gotten books to find where my place is. I know what I need to pay for. What to get involved in and what not to. The young lady my son is engage to live with her grandparents with her father and two other sibs. Her mother is on public assistance. So to expect them to be able to pay for a wedding is not likely. My son is in the Army and all the wedding plans will be made by her. Don't get me worng I will help pay for a wedding for my son However for the young lady to have the attitude " It is the brides parents who are responsible for the wedding so we will plan the wedding when we want." This is totally wrong. I know that I will have to help with the wedding and I need time to save for his wedding. I spoke tomy son and TRIED to get him to unsderstand that yes they might have good intentions however reality is they will not be able to afford it. I want my son to have a wedding as equal as his sisters.
The father of the children is still in the picture However he is totally disabled from a terrible accident and lives on a fix income. He will help as he can but there is not much he can do. I don't not hold that against him . I treat him as a equal in the wedding planing and ect. He is a good man just not able to had out cash...
I just pray that it all workd out and that my children will come to some peace about all this and wait their turn to get married.
