Replies to 'Body Image & Sex Appeal'

I'm not pregnant, but I was only about five months ago and now I have a beautiful baby girl named Willow.  Yes, pregnancy can be hard and you do not feel sexy all of the time.  Before I got pregnant I was 110 pounds and I am not that anymore!  lol  But I am at a healthy weight now because believe me, having two children to run around with will help in weight loss.  But I honestly never felt like I was not sexy while I was pregnant.  Infact, I never felt more beautiful.  We women are the givers of life, everyone born has come from inside a woman.  Woman are the sole providers during pregnancy, in which, men can not carry the baby or feed the baby, and so we nurture the baby from the very beginning.  There is life inside of you and what can be more beautiful than that?   I feel that there is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant body and my husband agrees.  So believe your husband when he tells you that you are sexy, because I bet he is being honest.  You are carrying his child and he thinks that is sexy.  And if you are concerned about losing weight after birth, you can lose it.  You said you were very active so it is something you are used to and that makes it easier to lose weight.  Hope this helps and remember, you are carrying life and that is beautiful!  

  

I am due to give birth soon and I can tell you my husband can't get enough. 

This is my second child the first leaving me with stretch marks up to my belly button, never once has my husband said anything about it and why?? We have a beautiful daughter and one on the way, trust me this not feeling sexy thing will seem very insucnificant when you first hold that beautiful child in your arms and fall in love so fast, we tend to forget ourselves and focuse completely on them as we should. My husband and I met at 19 and let me tell you I haven't kept the six pack, he still tells me I'm gorges and that he loves me and thats all I need. Pregnacy lasts 9mnths  and you'll be heading back to normal in no time enjoy the kicks and movement and embrace this time. I hated being pregnant with my daughter but I missed it when it was over. 

  

  

good luck 

I am a 24 and a mother of 2. My husband could not get enough of me when i was pregnant. It could be 8am 1 if the afternoon, or bed time, he didnt care. MEN FIND PREG. WOMAN SEXY!!!!!!!! many of my husbands friends say as well, they find their preg wifes sexy. what could be sexier than creating a life inside of you. Trust me, you may feel horrible and ulgy, but when your baby comes out  and its 6 months postpardum, you will miss the feel of your little one inside of you . enjoy your pregnacy and take every complament your man gives you.  

our daughter is almost 2 now and my husband still talks about sex when i was pregnant. men love it. 

I totally identify with what you are saying here!!!! I worked for a year and a half to lose nearly 100 pounds, got into the best shape I had been in for a very long time. Not a super-model mind you, but comfortably a size 8 with a semi-muscular build, decent tan and feeling relatively all right about my appearance. 

  

Now, 5 months pregnant, I have already gained almost thirty pounds, feel flabby as heck, it's getting hard to even shave anymore, I feel fat/frumpy/totally NOT attractive. I have had some early contractions so I am not supposed to walk/exercise a lot, and if I DO do too much I end up in bed again to get contractions to stop. This makes it very hard to even try to keep in shape at all which is frustrating because i had very grand plans about walking every day and keeping my body toned up and strong during this pregnancy. Yeah, right. 

  

My hubby says the same thing your fianc'e does...that I am beautiful right now partly BECAUSE of my big tummy with our baby growing inside of it, that I am the love of his life, blah blah blah....then I notice how he loves to browse boy-short ads and sexy underwear advertisements. Okay, THAT is NOT how MY butt looks, so I guess I can tell what he really does like to look at and it is definitely not me.  Nevermind the head-turning when we pass a beautiful young lady with it "all done right", while I am waddling along in this fat preggo body (should I even mention the moo-cow syndrome occurring just below my collar bone?? Where did these gigantc leaky things COME from???????). 

  

He can tell me all day long that I am the one he finds most beautiful and I am the only one he truly wants to look at, but frankly I don't believe it. I think he says that because he tries not to hurt my feelings but the truth is he would be ecstatic if my body looked like some of the other ones he looks at.  

  

Now, even as a size eight, I have the previous history of havingbeen heavy in the past and have borne two other children so my body and skin are far from perfect. I am in my mid-thirties so I don't have BAD skin, but I  do not have the skin of a teenager, either. This all means that even when I'm NOT pregnant, the view of my backside in a pair of tanga panties or lacy boy shorts is...well to put it politely...a little frighening. A little tight butt I DON'T have, and the one I DO have really ought not be dislayed in such dainties...yuk. Now, especially being pregnant I definitely do not have the guts to try wearing lacy little dainties, and I have a hard time even finding bras that fit in plain old white let alone some other pretty configuration. For now I am living with one tan bra that actually fits well and hoping that my really big not-maternity undies will fit for at least a while longer because I don't know what I'll do when they get too tight...haven't found maternity undies that don't "creep" badly. That's a whole nother complaint saga in itself. 

  

So now that I have totally gone ker-splat all over this messag board, I hope that if nothing else you might know that you are not alone in how you feel about all of this (seemed to me there were a lot of responses exactly the opposite of what you were experiencing), and that I really do understand and actually am struggling with some of the same things. 

  

Hang in there, perhaps we can chat a bit more. 

  

Blessings, 

"Feel like a Moo Cow"