Quote From: charlie75 In the psychiatric world,
Malignant Narcissists the term I would use to describe my Mother's condition, but in the realm i of spiritual acknowledgement, it would be called the
spirit of Jezebel. Regardless of what this condition is called, my mother operates in a very inhumane, selfish, undeniably unremorseful, manipulative and corrupt manner. She is a distructive person and is much like an emotional vampire. Possesed by Jezebel or personality disorder.... both the same to me.
My question is open to not only Dr. Phil, but anyone else who may want to shed light or their opinion. Does anyone have any knoweledge or hands on experiance being raised by a
narcissistic parent? I am now thirty and have my own family, but the web my mother has had the power of creating is not easily dismissed or escapable. Much damage has been done emotionally and physically to those she's fed upon. Am I alone?
Mine is one. She has been diagnosed as paranoid schizophenic, bi-polar. She plays the devote Christian, but does not act Christian-like. My mother is 80 and has been saying that she is ill for 45 years now. Whether true or not, she uses her diagnosis to be a the answer to her selfishness, manipulation, laziness and uncontrolled spending of money. She has had 4 toilets in her house in 20 years, 3 a/c heating units in 20 years. She eats unendingly and abuses laxatives, which cause her to be ill and then complains about being ill constantly. I have told her that anyone as sick as she says she is would have died already.
You are not alone, but you have to get a life in which she is completely absent. I am serious about this. You must not let her know your phone number, not allow her to contact you. You must take control of when you see her and for how long. I hope that you do not live with her, you must have a life of your own where no one knows her or she does not influence anyone in your circle of friends. As my mother does, she probably tells lies about how badly you treat her and lies about other things in her life. By having a life separate from hers, you can rid yourself of the emotional damage she has created. When you find yourself thinking about it, tell yourself to stop it and think of something else.
