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January 5, 2006, 10:14 pm PST
decision time
Quote From: horseluver okay, my boyfriend lives 3 miles away, and he's suppose to come and see me every weekend. He didn't come down last weekend, and now he's saying he doesn't know if he's coming down this weekend. And then he calls me tonight and says that he's going bar hopping... I'm not comfortable with him going out to bars! (Plus the fact that he's only 18 and has to use a fake to get in, so he has to use the extra effort). Do I have a reason to be upset, or am I just being stupid. I feel like you just go to the bars to try and hook up with someone...
Please help me... You look like you are young and intelligent. Listen to what your brain and intuition are telling you. Maybe this boyfriend has different priorities than you do. Or maybe he is just not ready to commit to a relationship at this time. Don't be insecure that he wants to go out with some friends, even if it is to bars. He may be getting pressured from his friends. I am a 39 year old female, who has been married for almost 19 years. Believe me, if it is right you would know. If you are questioning his actions, then maybe he is not the right guy for you. I was only 14 yrs old when i met my husband, and we both knew we were going to be together forever. The best advice that i can give you: You have to accept him for the person that he is. You may be able to help him to mature, or commit, but you may not be able to change the habits that you despise. If you are confused now about your relationship, then you will always wonder....better to find someone who has the same goals, and has the same idea that you have about being a couple. I wish you all the best of happiness.
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